Tired of the negativity

[BlueSunny]

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the same negativity from others surrounding pregnancy - it seems people love nothing more than pointing out all the downsides and scary things to come! It's really getting me down and dont think i'll cope with the 'you'll never sleep again' 'children are so expensive' 'you wont be able to leave the house without a military operation' 'you have no idea how much your life is going to change' comments much longer. I think it is awful the way people try to scare pregnant women during an already stressful time. I have plenty worries of my own I don't need other adding to them! I am trying to assume this is all scaremongering and baby will be worth it. After all, these people have all done it themselves, often more than once?! I'd love a little more positivity :)

@BlueSunny becoming a Mum is genuinely the most wonderful thing I have done! DS turned 2 at the end of January and I am just loving seeing him develop and grow. I have enjoyed every stage so far! Of course there are tough moments (as I think anyone would anticipate!) but they have always paled in comparison for me of the joy I have in my little one. I've just found out that I'm pregnant again and I'm so excited for the adventures ahead! Yes a little bit daunted to be looking after 2 and how to juggle things etc but I am confident we'll make it work!

Life does change forever... But in a wonderful way! I'm seeing the world through fresh eyes again as I see the excitement with which my son learns things. And nothing nothing nothing beats those little arms cuddling round you and those little eyes looking up into yours and knowing that you are their safe space, their world, their everything.

I think some parents see those scare stories as a sort of badge of honour or maybe enjoy trying to terrify those who aren't yet immersed in this world but you will be fine. The love you have for your little one will get you a long way! It is honestly such a lovely time of life 🥰

I'm getting the same thing.

It's purely down to my situation.

The baby daddy is a complete psycho and I cut contact before I knew I was pregnant.
He won't take no for an answer, threatens to turn up to my address and is currently phoning me off private numbers, just to get me to answer, after I blocked him in every other way possible.

So needless to say I will be doing this entirely alone. No support at all.

Honestly I'm finding it all completely alien and overwhelming.
My main support network is 2-6 hours away.

My mum although supportive in one sense, is not so supportive in others and keeps trying to push he views on me about bringing a child into this world.

It's really not the kinda negativity I need and the other day, I ended up bawling my eyes out telling her.

I explained that people keep asking me the same things over and over again. If i were in a loving relationship and were pregnant, it would be a whole different story.

I understand people are questioning me out of concern but it's all things I've already been thinking about, constantly.
I don't need it, I need support.

Oh I bloody hate these comments! I want nothing more than to be a mum so I just ignore it but I just think why bother?? It’s like having babies is a negative thing🙄

Yeah, it's beginning to frustrate me.

However on the opposite end, the people who are supportive, have been way more supportive than I ever expected.

If you've got anyone that's excited for you, they're the ones that will be the good juju for you. Hold on to them and pester them when you're feeling low.