I need some honest advice. I have just found out I am pregnant and my partner is insisting that if we are to stay together, I must get a termination.
For context, we have been together for 3 years and have been through a lot. He has 3 children with 50:50 custody and I have one. We are not married though will be this year. We have just bought our family home though I will not be moving into it until August in order to give his children time to adjust (though we spend a lot of time together as a family, they do not know their father and I are together). We own a business together which I am mainly responsible for though he certainly bank rolls it when needed.
He is insistent that it is not the right time as he believes it will jeopardise our children as they go through the transition of living all together. He has said that if I go through with the pregnancy then I will be alone and he will not have anything to do with the child. He wants us to wait 6 months- 1 year and then, once we are married we will actively try for more children.
I feel sick. I cannot contemplate the idea of being a single mum to two. I did it on my own the first time around and it was extremely hard but I don’t regret my decision in the slightest.
I am really hoping he will come round but I know I can’t count on it. I don’t want to force him to be a father but I also don’t want to be forced to do something that I know is not my decision. I have had several miscarriages before my first and I know how much that hurts and I see a termination as being just as painful but with added guilt.
we have a loving but sometimes a little unstable (mainly due to me) relationship. We know the future that we both want and are just getting to the stage of making that a reality. This has thrown a spanner in the works but I don’t see it as being as utterly catastrophic as he does.
Any advice on what I should do would be very appreciated. Thank you