Do I distance myself from friend?

[Ttc2m]

So after 2 years of TTC and 2 recent miscarriages why do I feel so ripped apart my friends now pregnant? ttc is so hard and it’s starting to really take a toll on my mental health. My friend is the only person I’ve been able to confide in about my feelings these past 2 years and today out of the blue she FaceTimed me to announce her pregnancy and was very smug about it. She Told me she knew I would be annoyed and kept going on about how angry I would be. To say I was shocked was a understatement I was struggling to speak. She’s single its totally shocked me and I was definitely not expecting it. she said she wasn’t trying but has got pregnant by her ex boyfriend after carrying on having unprotected sex and lying to him about being on the pill after he told her he didn’t want kids. (That’s why they broke up) Should I distance myself from her? I don’t think I can listen to her going on about her pregnancy for the next 9 months. I feel awful but I just cannot bear it. I only lost my baby a month ago so It’s very raw.

I am so sorry for your losses. Your emotions are really understandable.
How good a friend is she otherwise?
Friendships are supposed to enhance your life not cause you stress. She's entitled to her pregnancy joy as are you to your grief...
Personally I'd call or text to say you are not feeling very robust at the moment & will struggle being around pregnancy emotions at the moment.
Explain you won't be in touch for a while but hope everything goes well & you'll be in touch if you feel able.
A true friend would understand & appreciate your honesty.
A vague distancing without explanation will likely cause more distress in the long run.

I'm so sorry about everything you've been through ❤️🌸
Did your friend actually use words 'annoyed' and 'angry' when trying to describe your potential feelings about this pregnancy? 😳
You'd be totally within your rights to give yourself some space and grow some distance.

Thankyou for replying….We’ve been very close friends for over a decade. I just felt very unprepared for this facetime and she knows more than anyone how pregnancy announcements really trigger me and how upset I get for days on end. To say I am shocked is a understatement. I think the way she told me has made me so upset……it was totally out of the blue. We talk every day normally but she’s the type of person where if somethings going on in her life you don’t hear the end of it and I just know I won’t hear the end of this but yes she kept repeating herself saying I know you won’t want to hear this and I know you will be annoyed etc……

Also I say close friends but we are best friends we talk all day every day normally

She sounds rather immature (really hate what she did to her ex but..!) However, if she is usually a great friend in all other ways and you don't want to lose her I think I'd be tempted to send a message along the lines of:

"Just so you know, I really didn't like the way you wrote a script for me about how I would feel when you announced your pregnancy. I was very surprised as it was so out the blue but I would have appreciated you letting me process my own emotions about it in my own time. As things stand, you know I'm currently reeling a bit after my latest loss and I am feeling very delicate discussing anything baby related. I might need a bit of time and space to process this and I hope you can understand that. Massive congratulations again on your positive test."

That's terrible she deliberately got pregnant by a man who didn't want kids. Really unfair on him although he should have taken some responsibility with protection not trusted her.

She is immature for her comments too but putting that aside, yanu to want space from her to process her pregnancy