Can't get used to the idea of being pregnant - anyone else feel the same

[mum2bagain]

I have 3 wonderful boys already. I am 8 weeks pregnant. It was unplanned. At first I was really excited, my husband is happy and tells me everything is going to work out super fine. We have a great family already and lots of people around us. The last few days I have felt completely different. I'm really worried about being pregnant and keep thinking how it is going to turn our lives upside down. My 3 boys are 7, 9 and 15, so quite a big gap. I'm hoping its my hormones. How can I give my self a boost up?

I think it is quite normal to feel like that.

I had 5 years between DS1 and DS2, DS2 was planned but I still hit a point in the pregnancy where I'd look at DS1 doing all the things for himself and I'd think, what the hell have we done, going back to sleepless nights, breast feeding, nappies, going through the dreaded toilet training again.... but I think it is just all part of it. I found a browse through some baby shops and looking at DS1's baby pictures helped me remember that a new born isn't all hard work, and just how special it all is.

I am sure in a week or so's time you will feel very differently again!

Congratulations on the pregnancy BTW At least you will have a baby sitter when ever you want!!!

Thank you. I think I just need a bit of cheering up

Can you arrange to go out to dinner with some friends or something? I think sometimes you're head is so full of thoughts of being pregnant and babies, sometimes you just need to have something to take your mind off it for a little while.

I feel the same and this is only my second! I just can't get into this pregnancy I was obsessed with the first one and this one is just well a bit blah. TBH it seems like I've just got back on an even keel with DD (15 months) and all hell is about to break lose.

Also you are bound to feel crappy in the first trimester, apparently you get the happy hormones in the second (though mine are clearly coming by train as they are a tad late!)

Anyway it could be worse, your 15 year old could be fathering his first instead of you mothering your last!

hiya mum2bagain, I think your feelings are very common and to be expected.
Our baby was planned, yet i still managed to make 3 appointments for counselling after feeling so desperate.
My previous baby is now 17 year old.
I am currently 27 weeks and doing ok. I still have moments of " oh my god what am i doing", but then i look down at my bump and smile, i do love my bump despite sometimes having negative feelings.

Yes, I can identify with that. Having baby on 25th Feb and I'm only just beginning to realise the full implications this will have on my life (I do have a DS already who is 3). I almost have moments when I want to not be pregnant and I'm kicking myself for feeling like that.

i sort of feel the same too - DS was only 8 weeks old when i fell pregnant (am suppossed to be infertile now ). although this baby it totally wanted it was so unexpected.

i spent most of january panicing about how i would cope with two lo's under a year old and its only been the last week i have started to look forward to another baby. i kept thinking that this baby would never be as perfect as ds and how would i ever love it as much. suppose you just do.

kaa0901 you were getting frisky 8 weeks after birth???? I salute you and feel a challenge coming on.

I agree with Nataliejane - this is my first pregnancy, it was planned well in advance, I had been broody for years! Now it's here it's all I think about, and I did actually confess to my partner last night that I am just bored of thinking babies all day every day, it's just so monotonous you know! It's definitely good to get away or have a night out and take your mind off it, I went on a weekend holiday and we were so busy that my mind was elsewhere and when I came back I had a completely different mindset, before it was all worry worry worry, now I hardly freak out at all!

I feel the same. DS is 16 months and I am 7 weeks pg. It is due 3 days bfore DS 2nd birthday. DS is very demanding and I keep thinking that I am being cruel to him because he won't get the attention he gets now. DP said yesterday that every time I mention the pregnancy I sound sad. I'm just finding it hard that DS won't be my baby anymore. Hopefully things will change the further I get!