Five children.

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Mumto4xo · 20/02/2023 19:40

Hi im 26 years old and i have 4 children already aged 7,6,4,1. Ive just found out im pregnant again even though im on the pill, im feeling mixed emotions and dont know what to do. I feel like if i was to continue with pregnancy id be being selfish to my other children especially my youngest. Im looking for advise, i have no one else to speak to apart from my childrens dad but he always says its up to me, im so confused and i dont know what to do please help me

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SouthwestSis · 20/02/2023 20:19

Are you and your partner able to support 5 children?

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Mumto4xo · 20/02/2023 20:40

Yes we would have money to, im in two minds what to do. I need peoples advise. Point of view. I dont agree with abortions yet im worried what people will think/say, my four children want for nothing at the moment but we get alot of funny looks, loads of horrible comments towards us. I need some advice :(

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SnookyPook · 21/02/2023 09:54

@Mumto4xo it sounds like you're more worried about the judgements of others and 'how it looks' which I don't think is ever the best way to make a decision. The fact is, it's noone else's business what your family looks like. If you can support your children etc, that's the thing to think about.

I think you need to take a step back from wondering what everyone else might think and dive into your own heart and what you really feel. Can you picture having another one in the mix? Does the thought of it fill you with dread and worry or with curiosity and excitement?

Look into your own heart and trust what you find there. Good luck!

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Mumto4xo · 21/02/2023 10:30

Thank you for that advise, i think it is down to that- dont really have any close family members and even the ones i do say im “mad” etc etc, yes i can support my children and everything and when i do think of another baby i do feel somewhat excited. At the moment its alot of mixed emotions, im feeling guilt around my other children more so my youngest as he’s only one but will be two when this baby was born, and as you say the judgement. Im greatful for your feedback and has helped me. Ill be greatful to hear everyones views/experience x

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Kayycatt · 21/02/2023 11:51

If you are financially stable and able to support all your children equally then I wouldn't worry about what the others say/think.

It's your life not anyone else. Do what makes you happy.

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