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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Alcohol and tww

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anna2101 · 19/02/2023 10:20

Hi everyone!

I just found out I'm pregnant at about 9DPO. To give a bit of background - my husband and I have been trying for 5 months. The first 4 (and tbf even the month before we started trying) I did everything by the book - no alcohol, no coffee, healthy eating, prenatals, etc). Whilst I know that it's normal for it to take up to a year, we got a bit disheartened after 4 months and decided to take it easy for month 5. So during this cycle, we didn't 'try' as much as we previously did in terms of timing and just how much we dtd. I also allowed myself some drinks during the ovulation period and after ovulation period finished I was just convinced this was not the month. I had no symptoms and it was just a feeling it wasn't going to be the one. So yesterday it was my birthday and we went out - I had about 5 drinks (3 of them shots). I wasn't drunk, maybe tipsy. And in the morning woke up feeling very guilty and paranoid. I thought maybe I should continue testing everyday throughout the week so in case by some evil coincidence I do end up pregnant I could maybe like pinpoint implantation and hope that would be after the night. So I went to do a clearblue digital 6 days early and there it was - a positive. Now what was meant to be a very happy moment became one of mixed emotions and self hate. I made a gp appointment already to get some advice but I guess I'm looking for similar stories. If you drank (more than a glass or two of wine) the day you found out you were pregnant - what did the docs say, how did the pregnancy turn out etc... also I recognise its very early days and chances of chemical at this stage are still high but I can't help but be paranoid. Thank you!!!

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anna2101 · 19/02/2023 15:58

Any thoughts/comments?

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Hankthehonk · 19/02/2023 16:05

@anna2101 firstly congratulations!!
Secondly please enjoy this moment and don't beat yourself up. So many women drink before realising they are pregnant.
I didn't realise I was pregnant with my first until I was more than 6 weeks. In the 3 weeks or so since conception I'd drank several times including a lot of gin at a friend's birthday party! My pregnancy was absolutely fine and she's now a 100% healthy toddler. I remember confessing about the gin to a midwife and she just laughed and said something reassuring about that not being the type of drinking they worry about.

Pickles91 · 19/02/2023 17:25

Congratulations!!!

Please don’t worry about it! A few drinks in the tww wont cause any harm. When we were TTC, we decided early on that we didn’t want to put put lives on hold or drastically change them for a process that could take years. We got our bfp at 9dpo after 8 months trying, and the only reason I tested was because my Friday night wine wasn’t sitting well at all! I had also been at a wedding 2dpo, wine tasting at 3dpo and split a bottle of champers with DH around 7dpo. I didn’t touch alcohol again after our bfp, and am now 31 weeks. Baby is perfect (he is dancing on my bladder as we speak) and my doctor has never had any concerns. Honestly I would do everything the same next time we TTC. Rest assured that loads of women will drink in the tww, whether they’re TTC and conscious they’re in it or not. Many women also drink a good chunk into their first trimester if they’re unaware that they’re pregnant.

It’s a super anxious time that I can really really empathise with, but please don’t worry about this particular thing. Enjoy the excitement and best of luck with your pregnancy!

firsttimelondonmummy · 19/02/2023 19:13

I really wouldn’t worry.
My little one was a complete surprise and in the 4 weeks before I found out I drank fairly heavily on 3/4 occasions.
I was also on nerve damage medication and had a nasty bout of the flu.
I’m currently 22 weeks and little man looks great so far!

My friend didn’t find out she was pregnant for 9 weeks and was throwing up champagne and sushi the night she found out.
Her DD is a beautiful healthy nearly one year old.

I’d suggest reading ‘Expecting Better’ lots of mums to be say it helps with the anxiety.

Sallyh87 · 19/02/2023 19:42

As I understand it the placenta isn’t even formed until about two weeks after conception so it doesn’t really impact anything. In my first pregnancy I didn’t think I’d hit the right dates for conception so had alcohol (quite a bit!) during TTW. Baby was fine and she is now a very strong 2.5 year old (smart too, but I am her mom so my opinion is probably biased!). Don’t worry about it.

Twoinapod · 19/02/2023 22:12

I’m currently pregnant with my third. All 3 of mine I’ve found out I was pregnant the day after a big night out. 🙈 honestly it’s absolutely fine, the placenta hasn’t formed yet so nothing’s passing through to baby. You drinking has caused absolutely no problems with the baby. Please try to relax.

anna2101 · 20/02/2023 11:55

Thank you so much everyone !! 🥺 ! Your messages have made me feel so much better and at ease. I think I'm finally feeling happy and excited :)

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allgoodthings84 · 20/02/2023 12:40

Congratulations and don’t worry at all! It’s way too early for it to be an issue. I didn’t find out until I was 6.5 weeks for my daughter and only tested after being really ill for days after a mini break away with lots of drinking (at that stage I never got hangovers). I was worried too but was assured that it would all be fine and it was 😊

AlexisR · 04/04/2023 13:41

If a bit of alcohol in the tww killed off human embryos I think there would be much fewer of us than there are! Embryos are pretty resilient things.

anna2101 · 04/04/2023 17:02

Ahahah thanks @AlexisR! I'm now slowly getting close to 10 weeks and so far so good !

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