can’t sleep in same bed as DP 39 weeks pregnant

[bells2810]

I’m 39 weeks pregnant and haven’t been able to sleep in the same bed with my DP for the past 8 weeks or so. I’m so uncomfortable at night and struggle to find a position to sleep in, despite lots of pillows etc, as well as getting up to go to pee a million times a night, and was disturbing my DP, which I feel really bad about despite him being lovely about it and not complaining once. I’ve also had insomnia for the last few weeks combined with PGP which keeps me up most of the night. Currently we’re taking turns sleeping in the spare room each night, and it’s making me miserable.

I miss sleeping in the same bed as him and I feel like we’re missing out on time we could be spending together while it’s still just the two of us, before our baby arrives.

I know I haven’t got very long left of my pregnancy and we are so excited to meet our baby, we have the Moses basket ready and set up in our bedroom - my fear is that even once I’ve given birth I won’t be able to get back to sleep in the same bed as my partner since I’ve been out of the habit for so many weeks. Has anyone else experienced this?

I suffered bad insomnia in my first pregnancy and was up most the night so we did similar as seemed silly me keeping my partner up too. Same happened last 2 weeks of this pregnancy and he again slept in the spare bed so I wasn't worried about keeping him up, which prevented me getting back to sleep even more if I was trying to not disturb him. I have had no problem him being back in bed now, the first few weeks after birth both times we were both knackered we would've slept anywhere! But sleeping apart at the end of the pregnancy hasn't impacted our relationship at all, we just did what we could to get as much rest as possible.

It’s a few weeks from the many hundreds you will spend sleeping together in the course of your life. It’s seems a lot now and you (if you are anything like me!) are hormonal and pregnant and building it up in your head.

I didn’t experience this in pregnancy but my first was a terrible sleeper and would only co sleep so me and DH slept apart for the first 6 months of her life. Not ideal and I hated it but once she was settled, we got back into the same bed and it was the same as before. Indeed, I am pregnant again so we are very much a normal couple, sleeping in the same bed!

You’re miserable now, so just do whatever makes it easier for you. Sleep wherever you can!

I'm 7 weeks pregnant and my partner is moved to the spare room 🤣 I'm having bad morning sickness so had to be done. Look after yourself and don't worry he'll be back in your bed in no time!