Is it normal for people to ask if we're trying for a girl?

[gemloving]

I'm pregnant with my third child. Nobody knows except close family and two of my friends. A lot of people are asking about a third child and I never say no but have always answered honestly saying that we do want three children.

I noticed colleagues but also my friends asking if this is because we want a girl (we have two boys). My honest answer is no. The commitment of a third child goes beyond their sex. We'd be delighted with either but I have a feeling we're having another little boy. Is there something wrong with having three little boys? I feel so blessed with mine.

I have same situation just opposite, everyone saying maybe it's going to be a boy this time. I honestly don't care and why having boy is such big thing for many. Like lots of parents they will stop at 2 because they have one of each not because 2 is right number for them. My girls in close age gap have very good bond and I would be happy to have one more girl. To be fair I wouldn't know what to do with boy, I bet it's similar for you and girl.

I’m still early but I already have 2 girls and I know I’m going to get lots of people asking if I’m hoping for a boy. I’d love a boy, but equally love a girl. Already picked the girls name out 😂

I think people say thoughtless things to make conversation. It would be a ridiculous thing to roll the dice on, you really want a girl so are going to take a 50:50 chance on it. I would hope most people arent that silly!

Anyway, congratulations, three boys or two boys and girl. Are you going to find out the sex so you can shut people up?

Whenever I’ve told anyone we are expecting our second boy, the immediate response has been “how do you feel about that?”. People seem very stuck in the thinking that every woman wants a daughter and would be disappointed with only boys. I love my DS more than anything and so I can’t see any negative to having another one of him.

It happens the other way round too. I have 4 girls and people love to tell my DH what a shit time he's going to have. Unfortunately I think when you have numerous children the same sex people will comment.

I have two boys, and was really happy when I found out the sex of DS2 - the only person who had a preference was DS1 and all he wanted was a baby brother so it worked out well. Now 5 weeks with no.3 and if I'm honest, I'd prefer a third boy- my two get along so well, it'd be lovely to add another to that - either way, this kid is going to need to love dinosaurs and vehicles as I've no space left for anything else!

@gemloving I am pregnant with no 3 also and have 2 boys. The amount of people who have asked me that question is getting rather boring now!! I honestly don't get why they are asking. Aslong as our baby is healthy that's all we are hoping for!

As soon as I found out we were having another boy, people started asking me if we’d go for a third to have a girl. It’s bizarre. I’m a boy mum and I love it!

@Hippomumma oh, I had this - had just pushed out a 9lb odd boy minutes before and the midwife asked if I'd have a 3rd so I could have a girl - nothing could have been further from my mind at that point! 😂

I have this but the other way round, even when we found out we was having 2 girls people would ask how we felt about it 🤯 I always wanted 2 girls to have sisters so it did really annoy me! Now I'm having our 3rd everyone assumed it's because we want a boy which is far from the truth, we haven't found out this time so it will be a lovely surprise either way 🥰 I'm also fed up of people thinking this baby was a surprise as our youngest is now 7 when in fact she was the surprise and this one was very much planned 🤣 people always want to put their two pence in nowadays when it's really not needed! Aslong as it's healthy that's all we care about ❤️

@Fawn68 I Wonder if it was another boy if people ask me then if I'm going for a 4th straight after he's out!

@gemloving funny you say that! When I told one of my friends I was pregnant she said oh are you hoping for a girl and is that why you're having another and I said no that never even crossed my mind. Then she said oh well if this one is a boy you may go again for a girl. I've had 2 miscarriages and I assure you all I want is a healthy baby! Some people have no filter.