Hello
Im after a bit of advice please. So I’m currently pregnant and when we found out the gender we told my parents, sisters and my partners mum but my partners dad didn’t want to know as he wants a surprise which was fine. But my partner said he did us want to tell any of our friends because his dad didn’t know and he wanted his dad to be one of the first to know. I really didn’t understand this at all but he was adamant he didn’t want anyone else to know. So when all my friends have asked me I’ve had to say no we chose not to find out The gender. And then they’ve gone on to ask me if I had any guesses, did I think I could tell based on symptoms being different from first (we didn’t find out with my first) and I’ve had to go along with it. Which btw has felt super awkward and stupid but I was trying to be respectful of my partner.
Anyway now it turns out one of my friends has very very likely found out we do know the gender and also what the gender is. (Won’t go into details as it’s outing but it wasn’t from us but an accidental slip up in family). And chances are she prob will tell at least one or two friends and then it’ll just get out. So now my partners said fine we can tell people which is so bloody frustrating as I’ve been the one people have kept asking and I’ve had to lie etc. So question is how should I now tell people after pretend up until now that we didn’t find out?
I know it’s not the end of the world and it is obviously a very trivial problem. But I just feel like a massive knob as they’ll know I’ll have been lying all the times they’ve asked me about it. And basically wondering if there’s anyway to sound less of a knob!
Thanks