Need opinions desperately.

[LkS0104]

this isnt something I really wanted to put out there but it seems I need some outside perspective.
I recently found out I’m pregnant
On December 30th,2022 I was taken advantage of at a “friends” house by a guy. I went home the next day and I got my period January 6th,2023 was normal lasted five days also normal. My next expected period would have been February 3rd, I took a at home test February 6th and it was positive. Went to ER that same night to confirm and they did ultrasound + bloodwork. They claimed it was to early to tell how far along as they couldn’t see much of anything.
I have a boyfriend, he knows about the assault but what I’m needing is opinions on whether or not it is likely I could have gotten pregnant by the man who assaulted me or not, my period tracker says I should be roughly 5weeks. I’m torn into a million pieces at the moment and could use some clarity. 😭

I am so sorry that happened to you 🙁

Given the dates you likely ovulated well over a week before the assault. Making it really unlikely it is that man. Also you then had a period after, which can happen but generally wouldn’t.

I think it is much much more likely to be your boyfriend.

So sorry that happened to you. I think it is highly, highly unlikely that it was the man who assaulted you.

I’m really sorry you’re in such a horrible situation, but you can unfortunately be pregnant from these timelines.

I also had unprotected fun with DH a week before my period, had my period as usual and only tested when I missed my next period and had a huge positive, so was also around 5 weeks at the time. So it is certainly possible.
In my case I have very light 1/2 day periods so the doctor suggested that I mistook my implantation bleeding for my period (although it was on time like clockwork).

Regardless of timing of any unprotected fun with your bf I would seek advice as soon as possible on next steps and possibly termination. I’m really sorry you’re going through such an ordeal but you have options available.

@LkS0104 so sorry this happened to you. I also agree with PP, if you had a period of normal length on 6th Jan then 30th december you would likely have already been well past your fertile point. I know
some people mistake period for implantation bleeding but the latter tends to be lighter and last less time. So to me it sounds like it’s more than likely your bf. I know it must be a really tough time but if you wait a couple weeks and then get another scan they will be able to date it (I had scans at 5 and 7 weeks, 7 weeks dating is more accurate but at 5 they were able to say it looked like approx 4.4-5) which should hopefully give you some peace of mind. Sending love

Sorry to add to the above - PP are right it is unlikely but I just wanted to add another perspective that it’s not impossible.

You haven’t mentioned if you were having unprotected with your BF in the mean time?

Also when I tested positive it was VERY very positive. This confused me because I thought I could have only been a few weeks pregnant but when I had my dating scan, it started to make more sense. Hcg levels are not an exact measure of how far along you are but maybe a weaker positive will give you some peace of mind that your positive has nothing to do with the assault.

Yes I still had unprotected sex with my boyfriend. @Lhdale so probably a week or so before my missed period I had gone to the restroom and when I wiped there was a small very light pink blood spot on the tissue that only appeared when I wiped only saw it once. I actually thought I might have had a uti because I easily get them but the next day I was all good.
ive also been pregnant before and my pregnancy test always come back super dark despite how far along I am I get super high hcg levels so that doesn’t really put my mind at ease either.
it’s just super horrible because my bf is so heartbroken, he doesn’t think it’s his but does at the same time. We wanted a child very badly and had been trying and now this

@LkS0104 also just thinking, if the pregnancy was from 30th december then that would make you 7-8 weeks pregnant when you had the scan in which case they would have definitely seen an embryo and a heartbeat (if the pregnancy were viable) . The fact that they couldn’t see anything suggest it’s much much newer. I honestly feel very confident it is not from that horrible event. Please reassure your boyfriend too. And in a few weeks you can get a dating scan to doubly confirm

If it was the guy in December then there definitely would be enough there for them to scan by now. Plus it’s incredibly unlikely based on those dates that it is his. I know it’s really hard but all the signs here point to it being your boyfriends. It sounds like you have a little ray of light in what must be such a dark time

@Lhdale @Twoinapod That’s my exact thought also. I figured I’d be much further along if it were the other guys. I keep reassuring myself and my boyfriend, but he’s just not accepting it. It’s making me feel super low right now. I just wish I could get definite answers

Hopefully when you have another scan they will be able to see something and tell you how far along you are, then he might believe it. I imagine he doesn’t want to get his hopes up incase but I would say the likelihood of it being the other guys is really really tiny. If it was that guys and they couldn’t see it by now then I would think you’d have lost the baby at this point.

@Twoinapod Thank you! My hcg levels have gone up over 60% in three days so I don’t think I’ve lost it, just think it’s super early. Time seems to be on a stand still right now,

Yeah definitely sounds like your boyfriends then. Congratulations. Maybe you could ask your sonographer to make it clear how many weeks you are during your scan so he can feel reassured that it is his. Personally from what you’ve said I would say 100% that it is your boyfriend’s baby. The other dates don’t add up.

@Twoinapod Even if it were a possibility that I got pregnant around that time my boyfriend still wouldn’t be out, we had intercourse the 31st of December (I ended up telling him after about everything bc I got emotional after). I want to be happy about this pregnancy so badly, but his doubt and everything that has happened has made it nearly impossible. I have asked about how far along I could be , they just say based on what they see it’s to soon because of not having anything to measure. I mean that alone should put me and him at ease a little since that would mean it’s much much newer of a pregnancy right?

@LkS0104 absolutely. Going from the date of your last period you would be at least 5 weeks by now which is enough to see something, you can see a heartbeat around 6-7 weeks I think. So I’d be very reassured that if it’s too early to see anything that you have definitely conceived within the last few weeks

@Twoinapod we have a child of our own already and when we first found out we were pregnant I was almost 6 weeks along based on lmp and we were clearly able to see the sac and the beginning of the baby. So for me not seeing anything on my ultrasound recently definitely makes me think I’m 4/5 weeks at most.
sorry for the constant elaborations - I’m just so confused and worried

So sorry this happened to you @LkS0104 .
I think it the pregnancy was from 30th Dec, you would've seen the heartbeat and fetal pole on the scan on the 6th of February... Inclined to think the baby is your boyfriend's.
Things will be much clearer when you get a re-scan ❤️

@LkS0104 its absolutely fine it’s good to get it all out as it can help make sense of dates and everything. I’m sure your boyfriend will realise everything makes sense to be his. I imagine he is also trying to process what happened and get his head around the positive test.

@Twoinapod I believe he is also, that’s why I’m trying to not take it much to heart on how he’s acting. I just can’t wait till the next rescan so things can be more clear.
@ScrantonDunderMifflin Thank you for your input. After reading about a million different things related to pregnancy I would say so too. Since I couldn’t see anything but a black dot ⚫️ on the ultrasound from the ER i wouldn’t think I could be that far along. When clearly a ultrasound from 7-8 weeks would have a pretty clear picture of said baby