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Breastfeed or not..

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Anonymousoneo · 10/02/2023 22:56

I'm sooo torn weather to try again or not I tried to breastfeed with my son but it failed massive he has a tounge tie and couldn't feed at all, he was tube fed for a while by the time he was ready to try again my milk supply was awful, I actually really enjoyed the freedom of formula feeding not feeling the constant pressure of being the one that has to do all the feeding but I'm debating weather to try this time round with my daughter obviously I'm aware breast is the best but it just feels like whole new territory and a headache do I just stick to what I know and go back to the bottle😣

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J1290 · 11/02/2023 09:38

I had awful time first time round. But was willing to try again second baby managed sic good weeks. I think its worth a try especially if the first stage no harm in swapping to formula when ur ready? Or if it doesnt work out agin?

sleepymama3 · 11/02/2023 14:25

Give it a try I think, your daughter could still benefit from colostrum in the early days. You can change to formula at any time if breastfeeding doesn't work for you.

SouthwestSis · 11/02/2023 15:09

Another vote for give it a try. If you don't want to be solely responsible for feeding then you can try combi feeding after 4 or 5 weeks.
Breastfeeding is so hard but has the potential to be so rewarding if you can get through the initial most challenging weeks.
Try antenatal expressing to help get your boobs primed and ready in the last week or 2 of your pregnancy

CristinaNov182 · 11/02/2023 15:26

I don’t get what’s that freedom of formula about. I prefer the freedom of not waking up several times in the middle of the night, especially in the few months, just lying in bed, leaving the breast out for any needed feeding.

plus saving money.

seeing baby getting over colds easy and fast, especially when we both have colds at the same time. It’s worrying especially in the very first few months when they are so tiny.

the only hurdle was the first week, when it got painful at times, because she wasn’t latching properly at night and I was too tired to break the latch and try again. I used nipple cream and soon there was no issue. It would have been much worse to get up and prepare forums, just didn’t have the energy in me.

once they start eating food, there is no more pressure to be the only one feeding them. And like I said during the night you can be half asleep, or at least cozy in bed. And during the day I don’t see the problem either. I gave the baby to my DH to hold, play, etc, when I wasn’t feeding. So it’s not like she was attached to me all the time.

if you decide to give it a go, it’s worth watching videos or talking to a midwife about proper latching, how to present the breast, break a latch, etc. and use a special nipple cream from start. That will save you a lot of issues.

Sallyh87 · 11/02/2023 15:29

I think the question is, do you want to? Sounds like you were happy with formula feeding. That being said if you are inclined to, give it a go, no big deal if it doesn’t work or you aren’t enjoying it. Just switch to formula then.

I am asking myself a similar question now . With my first, I couldn’t because of the blood thinning medication I was prescribed. This time it won’t be a problem. So I am thinking I’ll give it a go and see what it’s like for us.

BCxx · 11/02/2023 15:54

I’m in a similar boat but really didn’t try very hard with my son as I was so worried about everything else and knew I didn’t really want to breastfeed so just gave up. I unexpectedly found at about day 7 I started to feel really guilty for not having tried harder and I then started trying to express but I didn’t have a clue what I was doing and really didn’t get anywhere with it. I think I’m going to try again with this one but for me expressing and feeding the baby a mix of formula and breast milk is the way I’d prefer to do it. I know the faff of sterilising is probably the main reason most people don’t succeed with that though 🤦🏼‍♀️ You can only try (if you want to that is)! But that feeling I had on day 7 wasn’t nice and at least if you think you’ve tried you’ll not get that hopefully!

lifehappens12 · 12/02/2023 08:47

I had a bad experience first time so I wasn't going to try a second time but as we got closer I though maybe we would try - this is what I did

  1. had a private consultation with a breastfeeding consultant and made a plan for after birth and what to do etc.

  2. made a mental plan that if it didn't work we would move to formula as my enjoyment of my baby came first - this sounds selfish but this was about my mental health.

Happy mum and fed child was my priority.

In reality - second baby born routing and fed immediately and he was very good. After 7 days my milk hadn't come in and I was struggling post c-section with a baby who was trying to feed constantly and a 3 year old who wasn't getting any time with me so we switched to formula to help me, my newborn and my 3 year old

Emothers · 16/02/2023 11:54

Hi

I am so sorry to hear about your breastfeeding complications with your son!

I cannot emphasis enough on this topic called tongue tie! There is not such thing called tongue tie. These are called frenula and they have a specific function. Sublingual frenula controls the movement of the tongue muscle.

I would not suggest anyone to let their their little babies to go through the painful procedure. In my knowledge which is backed up with evidence, by incising the sublingual frenula, babies lost their ability to control tongue movement for about 4 months! Which then adds on to further breastfeeding complications.

I would suggest you that’s only a suggestion to try breastfeeding time. Breastfeeding benefits are well documented and it’s really good for you and for your baby. Again breastfeeding should be comfortable and enjoyable.

If you want to know more around this topic please contact me via email: [email protected]

With Love

Nida (Certifies Thompson Method Breastfeeding Educator) ❤️

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