Panic has set in..

[Mumtoahyperchild]

Hey everyone 😀

Where do I start… I have just started a new job Mid December, complete new change of role and have just found out am pregnant ( 11 weeks to be exact) What feels like should be exciting news seems terrifying at the moment.

I have no idea when to tell me new employer, who is all work, work, work and can’t imagine they will be too pleased, as I have been brought in ease the load! I am also, on a 6 month probation and am absolutely bricking it telling the team, who I built a good relationship with already. Tbh me and my other half had been trying for a baby for the last two years and nothing happened and I just started to get me down that I had to stop thinking about it it. I have now have this great news that is overshadowed with guilt and I literally can’t sleep with worry about it. I literally haven’t told anyone other than direct family but I can’t help but feel overwhelmed by the news. I also am having a completely diff pregnancy from my first and am having really bad sickness, tiredness and the nausea has been terrible. I feel like a have started a new job with no energy!

Don’t feel guilty, you deserve to have the baby you want and the career you’ve worked for and good employers know and respect that. I’ve had two jobs I’ve interviewed for pregnant (very early days) and I told them at interview. It’s slightly different as they can choose not to hire me if they want to. However, I would tell them when you feel comfortable to do so. If that’s asap to get it off your mind or after your scan don’t let guilt and fear dictate it. You have protected status so make sure you keep a record of anything and everything to show you are doing your job and meeting your objectives. But never be sorry for being pregnant, I’ve been there and I’ve felt it and it robs you of your pregnancy joy and actually in the grand scheme of things who cares if you don’t work for months or years? The world keeps turning, the jobs keep coming, the companies make money so everything works out and you deserve to enjoy your pregnancy and baby x

I started my new job last year as well, I have a years probation and I'll be going on mat leave just at the end of my probation 🙈 I'm sure work aren't going to be super happy about me being off as I just came in and the role was vacant before that and I'm just finding my feet it's a difficult role but you can't dictate when these things happen and I'm sure loads of places have this happen all the time

It is a worry and I know it's stressful and inconvenient to the workplace but they'll cope, you don't have to tell them until way later on as well so you've got a bit of time, it's so hard doing a new role when you're not 100% feeling it though, same over here 😂

Thank you for your kind words- means a lot!