Anyone experienced living with possible placental abruption?

[Ccoe]

Has anyone any experience of going through third trimester knowing you have a partial placental abruption?

I’m 33 + 5 and I had a big bleed two weeks ago, they believe it’s a partial placental abruption.

I was let home after a week and told to come back if I had any fresh bleeding. I’m now back in hospital again with my third bleed (although very small compared to the first).

I feel constantly on edge every hour wondering if I’m going to rupture and essentially I’m terrified I’m going to die. 

I have a 2.5 year old and I hate being away from her. One of the doctors has recommended staying in hospital now until baby comes - they don't want me to go past 37/38 weeks which means a possible 4 weeks in hospital. But it's my choice.

I guess I’m just asking for shared experiences.

I have placenta previa and they also wanted me to be admitted to hospital, for fear of me
having a big bleed. I haven’t had any bleeding (touch wood) so far and I have a nearly 3 year old so refused. I also live very close to the hospital.

However if I were in your position with the bleeds I would probably go in. If I have a bleed now I would absolutely opt to stay in but my c section is in 1-2 weeks so it’s easy for me to say.

Sending hugs 💕

I’m only 24 weeks but in a very similar position. I’ve had five bleeds in the past two weeks – every time it happens I need to go to the hospital for checks and three times now they’ve kept me in (for five nights in total). I have an 18-month-old at home and I’m finding it hard as well.

They haven’t offered much of an explanation for why the bleeding is happening. They’ve said the edge of the placenta might have lifted slightly away from the uterus (which I think is abruption, albeit not a full abruption, though they haven’t used that word). Not having any proper answers is adding to the stress of the situation.

Like you, I have days where I feel quite worried. I’m on edge waiting for the next bleed. But I’m taking comfort from the fact that they’ve told me they see a lot of women with bleeding during pregnancy, and very, very few who have full abruption.

I hope everything is going okay for you.

I've dithered about if to reply or not because I dont want to scare you.

Honestly in your shoes I would stay in hospital.

I had two abruptions, one was a concealed abruption and my daughter was stillborn and the 2nd I almost died.... massive blood loss, 11 units of blood as well as 2 units of ffp.

The second abruption happened whilst I was in hospital being induced. I honestly don't think my daughter or I wouldve made it had I been at home.

My next 3 pregnancies were all ok, early bleeding but nothing late on. I was however booked in for c-sections at 34 weeks for those 3 pregnancies.

A full abruption is rare but I'd still rather be in hospital rather than at home just in case.

I wish you all the best

Oh thank you so much for sharing! I'm sorry you're going through the same thing, but it helps to not feel so alone.

After another bleed I have followed their advice and am now staying in hospital until baby arrives as it gets scary being at home on edge incase of another huge bleed.

Atm I've opted planned c-section at 37 weeks, rather than induction.

So a few more weeks to go - my little girl is struggling so I’m hoping I can get some home leave soon. I’m struggling too but I guess in the long run this is the lesser of two evils if I was to be in any serious danger at home - that’s what I’m focusing on right now.

Make sure you take care of you ❤️

Thank you for replying - I am SO sorry this happened to you & for your loss ❤️

You are amazingly strong to carry on especially after your first two experiences. I can't even imagine.

The full abruption is my biggest fear, I lost my mum at a young age and I simply CAN NOT let me little girl go through that. So we've made the decision if that means the next three/ four weeks I have to be in hospital to try and make sure she has a mum coming home then so be it.

I'm hoping for day release a few times a week to give her some normality, the hospital visits aren't fun for her and she's struggling with them.

I've asked for an elective c-section at 37, refused induction. I need to figure out if baby comes earlier whether I'm willing to try naturally or not.

Again thank you for sharing ❤️

How's it going, @Ccoe? I hope being in hospital isn't too difficult or boring for you. X

Thank you so much for checking in ❤️

My mood changes up and down hourly, I'm trying hard to keep busy - even been drawing & painting (all the things I'd want to do if I had more free time at home). To try and keep my mind off missing home and the worry of the upcoming c-section.

Then I get to the nights and being away from my family is hard and my bottom lip wobbles.

I've approached a therapist actually to see if I can just get some help re-framing things before my c-sec date (2nd March). I can't help but think negatively right now and I don't want to go in terrified of what might happen. So I'm hoping talking to someone might help.

Hope you're doing okay and all is well you're end?

Xxx

Even though hospital is the safest place to be in these situations, I think there's such a strong subconscious association that hospital = bad that it can cause a lot of extra anxiety. At least that's what I've found after my recent hospital stays; I am much more likely to find myself thinking about the worst-case scenarios.

It sounds like you're really aware of your mindset and trying to look after yourself in that sense though. Try not to be too hard on yourself either. You're going through a lot, but there's not long to go now. Soon this will just be a memory of the tough time you went through to get your perfect baby.

And I'm doing okay, thanks. Still bleeding every two or three days. The bleeds are usually fairly small but always bright red so I have to get checked at hospital every time. Been told this is likely to continue for the rest of the pregnancy, which is quite a thought... But just trying to tell myself that I can do anything for 15 weeks.

Just a little update - After my water breaking a week ago and also having strep B - we got baby out even earlier by c-section.

She was born on 23rd March and has been in NICU for help with breathing & feeding but we're making small steps now to her feeding independently.

I wanted to update mainly to say that the surgeon said they couldn't see any real evidence of why I'd had such a huge blood loss during pregnancy and why I'd then bled so much since then.

I stupidly was expecting an answer to what had actually happened to justify all this time I've spent in hospital, but still have none. It's 'one of those things' I've been told. I wanted to give you a heads up - incase similar happens to you too.

Hope you're doing okay. ❤️

Thank you so much for sharing and glad you are ok and baby is finally out! 💕 congratulations

I also had a placenta abruption and lost my son at 37 weeks 4 days he was born stillborn. I almost died from blood loss and also high potassium levels

5 months later I got pregnant and I am now almost in my second trimester. I’m scheduled for a c section at 37 weeks but I think after your story I might force them to reschedule it earlier if I feel any type of way! I want to do it at 35 weeks and they said they would have to put me on steroids and they don’t want to do that.

I am trying my best to be positive that this doesn’t happen again but I also have a little 5 year old boy who needs me. I have to make the best decision.

So thank you so much for sharing xx

Congratulations on the birth of your baby girl, @Ccoe! Got everything crossed for you to get home soon xx

Hi @Daisy155 I hope you are okay? I am so sorry about what happened to you. I lost my little girl at 35+3 a month ago due to huge placenta abruption and nearly died myself from loss of blood & had to stay in hospital for 5 days.
I just wondered how things went with your next pregnancy? Did you feel looked after and monitored properly ? Did you have your baby at 37 weeks ? It scares me to ever go past 35 weeks again!!!! X