How can I survive giving birth without support

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Hi all,

Recently experienced DV, child's father will not be and will not want him to be around, he's currently in the prison after the accident.

I have no family around in the UK, friends live far away, I still can't get my head around how to get myself to hospital and who can look after my 4 years old DD if I have to go hospital midnight. I am early in 2nd trimester I had GDM was in consultant led ward, I have slim chance of home birth for 2nd one.

Anyone can you give me some ideas please.

Thank you

Sorry your going through this you must be so worried ❤️ do you have a social worker? If you have absolutely no one to watch your child social services can provide temporary foster care while you give birth. Are you involved with any dv charities like woman's aid? If not I really think you should contact someone. Have you spoken to your midwife about your situation? They will be able to point in the right directions.

Hi there, I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this without support. I don't have any expertise myself but I didn't want to read and run.

You could reach out to the birth companions charity - from their website it looks like they can offer support before, during and after labour & delivery. www.birthcompanions.org.uk/pages/48-services

Also they might have information about other local support services and groups that could help you meet other people. I'd also speak to your midwife about what other support is available.

Wishing you all the best, your little one is lucky to have a strong mum like you ❤

I would book a planned c section - I had my twins on my own due to covid x

@isthistheendtakeabreath but did you have to look after the twins alone after discharge from hospital?

OP also consider a plan for after the birth, especially since you also have an older child.

Thank you for your reply. There's a social worker involved, I'll ask what kind of support they can offer me. I was referrd to Cranstoun, was supposed to have an appointment with a lady who later texted me that she needed to reschedule it but never call again.

Thank you for your reply.

birth companions charity looks something I should dig into. I'll ask midwife if they can refer me. Midwife was aware my situation, the day after incident happened they rang me already, and I saw the system has the report from police.

I don't worry too much about myself in terms of birthing support (there will be midwife around)but more for my 4 years old, like if I can take her with me to hospital if I had to get taxi at midnight?

Daytime my friends will come around to help my girl ( drop her off and pick her up and stay in my house till I got home).

Are you willing to say where you are? If you are local I would be very happy to help.

Thanks for both of your reply.

I can't consider c section, I need a speedy recovery. I planed to hire someone to drop of and pick her up from nursery for first few days. Then I hope I'll be able to get to normal routine for her.

Thank you one thing I learned from this horrible experience is that there are lots of kind people out there willing to help. I said to myself ill be the one once I am in better situation. Really appreciate your offer.

I live in Reading area ( between Reading and wokingham)

Oh a long way away sadly.
Yes - There are so many kind people out there - which balances out the buggers.
Look around your street and see if there is anyone who babysits. If so, get them to spend some time with your DD so they could step in. Teens are great for this - someone at 6th form will not let you down and will help you once the baby is home too.
Well done for escaping ❤