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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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39+5 wks, suddenly depressed, angry miserable. advice please HELP +++++

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cosima · 07/02/2008 11:00

I have had a good pg, feeling positive, chatting to my bump, got everything ready and excited about birth, suddenly today i feel fed up, i have had no nesting instinct, can't be bothered with the thought of going through labour, find my dh boring, just want to go on a diet and start an excercise regime. Is this normal? and does it mean labour might be imminent? Also i heard that people who don't nest more likely to have pnd

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beansprout · 07/02/2008 11:03

This is v normal!! I think you are just "going quiet" before the big event.

I nested like mad before ds1 and got a bit depressed. No nesting this time and I'm a lot happier, so does not necessarily follow!

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cosima · 07/02/2008 11:06

thanks beanie, how long will it be? hows your lo

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needmorecoffee · 07/02/2008 11:08

homrmoens and the feeling that 40 weeks is stupidly long! Very normal.
I never nested either.

dizzydixies · 07/02/2008 11:18

don't panic!!! all perfectly normal and the more you try to figure it out the more confused/angry/miserable you're going to make yourself.

its a horrible waiting game at this point but just be proud you've made it this far withouth actually killing dh (a distinct possibility throughout all my pgs) and try not to worry about possibility of pnd, its common, it does happen but with realising it exists and getting support it needn't be a huge issue. being down does not mean you ARE going to get it just be aware of it.

am very impressed with thoughts of diet & excercise, my dd will be 2 in May and I'm still trying to find those feelings/desires
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beansprout · 07/02/2008 11:26

How long it will be is impossible to predict I'm afraid. I know how frustrating it can be to not know though!!

Ds2 is fine although not that little apparently. HV has just been and told me he looks like a 2 month old baby.

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cosima · 07/02/2008 11:28

but its not like i'm thinking 'i can't wait for this baby to come' its more like oh i can't be bothered to have a baby actually, isn't there something better to do.

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beansprout · 07/02/2008 11:32

That is how I felt with ds1!!

I suddenly realised just what I was getting into but instead of going into full blown panic mode it just manifested itself as "oh, what's the point of all this?"

Don't worry, this has absolutely no bearing on how you will feel when your baby arrives.

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cosima · 07/02/2008 11:36

thank you for your posts. i'm going to get in the bath, then get tarted up with shit loads of make up on.

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whomovedmychocolate · 07/02/2008 11:43

Ah the end of pregnancy is such a torrid time. I remember getting SO BLOODY CROSS because I wasn't in labour and I couldn't stand waddling around anymore.

Go out and do something fun, plan something for tomorrow too - that way at least if nothing happens you'll have some entertainment. And if it does, hurrah!

Soon you will be cursing because you will have a newborn, it will be Easter and you won't want to eat your easter egg because you will be trying to lose your baby weight

dizzydixies · 07/02/2008 11:51

I have to admit I got a bit childish and whacked open a bottle of wine and DARED anyone to mention it - after 9months of careful eating/waddling and expanding it was as if I was desperately trying to gain something adult back for myself.

good for you bath and make up - why not head into town and have a look at all the new spring/summer stuff and give yourself a treat for after baby?

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