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advice/experiences needed, living separately

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Eharc19 · 02/02/2023 12:53

I was hoping someone could possibly share their experience with me?

I am currently pregnant with my second baby (already have a DS from previous relationship who is now 7.) I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We live separately. I have been very lucky to just get a housing association house, in a good area, DS is now settled in school and I’m so happy. My partner lives a 35 minute drive away with his son who is 12, who he has half the week living with him. We see each other 3 times a week.

this pregnancy has been a huge shock, still can’t figure out how it has happened as I have been on the pill for years with no blips! My partner wants me to move in with him and his son, away from my support network, my sons school and family etc as his house is bigger. He privately rents it.

the thing is, I don’t want to. I love my house, I’ve been so lucky to get it after being on the council list for 4 years, I love having all my friends and family nearby. Unfortunately, him moving in with me is not an option as it’s only a two bed and his son has learning difficulties and requires 24 hour care and supervision. I’ve also grown to LOVE living alone as I have for 6 years now and I like my own space and not having to put the toilet seat down every day 🤣

has anyone managed this living separately? I just really don’t want to live together yet, is that strange? I love him to bits, but I feel like I will lose almost everything if I live with him.

thank you!

OP posts:
boogiebabies · 02/02/2023 14:43

You would be mad to give up the HA house!

Your partner can stay with you half the week while he hasn't got his son.

Just see how you go. You're not a first time mum so you already know what life with a newborn is like!

karma13 · 02/02/2023 20:45

exactly! I literally never want to give it up, I love it! I think that’s what we are going to do, I’m just struggling with the judgment from my family who can’t understand why I want to live separately. Thank you for your advice

Ruby1986100 · 04/04/2023 07:44

Hi @karma13 how has this progressed? Have you made a decision? I wouldn't want to give up the house and independence either. Too risky! X

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