I’m 13+6 & DP has a complicated relationship with his family and we now see/contact them very rarely. Now mainly on occasions etc.
I used to encourage plans which are made by me, not my DP but the rest of them are very ‘close’ bloods thicker than water mentality and disapprove of anyone that isn’t their own. Not personal to myself as the things said about the other partners to me is clear to see how they feel about myself included! (Long backstories!)
I realised I was making myself out to be a bit of a mug hosting, looking after their children so I’ve taken a bit of a step back this year meaning there’s been a lot less plans as none of them make any with DP. (They all live on the same road so see each other everyday, we live 30 mins away)
Anyway… I have a bit of anxiety about telling them about baby and idk if it’s better to wait a bit longer until I/we feel ready or if that anx will only get worse?
I told some of my family this weekend and would’ve liked to do the same for DP’s but given the circumstances have both agreed to tell his father on Tuesday at football as that’s the only person he speaks to/spends time with (not close just mutual interest), who will gladly dispense the news to the entire family the second DP is out of earshot.
Does anyone have any advice on how to not be apprehensive, or similar experiences? Is it wrong to wait a few more weeks?
Apologies if this is too vague!