A thread while I wait for Amazon to deliver a test

[Viogner]

It suddenly occurred to me that I haven't had a period in a while. I've been slack about keeping track because I'm 42 and, despite trying for a second baby since the moment DS (10) was born, it wasn't happening.

But I had spotting a week or so ago which never happens (thought it was my period then forgot about it). My hips are painful. My skin is bad. I think my boobs are tender but I may be imagining now that the idea is in my head. Equally I may be imagining the metallic taste in my mouth.

Our life is now built around our only child and our (mental) dog. I am old. I have been drinking reasonably heavily because... January. I drink an entire cafetiere of coffee every morning (had decaf this morning, just in case!)

We have no room (and we're not moving). We've only just got the dog sleeping through the night.

I had a miscarriage 5yrs ago (on the day we picked up the dog!) and so I'm assuming that even if I am it won't stick.

But if it does...

Anyway, haven't mentioned it to DH. He's the strong, silent type which is less than useful in such emotional moments, so I thought I'd tell Mumsnet instead just so that I know someone else knows.

My period will probably come on shortly and I'll feel really silly.

Definitely following this One! Did you ever read that column years ago in the Guardian? I think it was called "Pregnant again at 42" I'll see if I can find it.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/dec/04/luisa-dillner-pregnancy?CMP=ShareiOSAppp_Other

Thanks for this! Although to be honest the whole pregnancy thing is the thing that worries me least. My first was really very gentle (even enjoyable), although the birth itself was less so.

More worrying is ... how do we cope if it does stick? How will DH react? We should be fine financially which I know makes us really lucky, but it'll upend our lives. Worried about the impact on DS (although that could be a positive thing - he's autistic, could help with empathy perhaps??)

And also, am I just being ridiculous and imagining things?

Ive heard about women your age getting pregnant as something g to do with the ovaries' last hurrah before they pack up but I don't know the evidence base behind that so no idea if it's true.

Were you using contraception? You have been pregnant twice because and carried one to term so you and your dh know it's possible for you to get pregnant.

Could also be peri. My periods have been haywire since your age. Cycles of 40+ days at times. You are not old btw.

Yes, could be peri. We haven't "officially" stopped trying so no contraception, but a fertility specialist implied 8yrs ago that I might already be heading towards peri so I have been assuming that I am done.

I'm trying v hard not to get my hopes up so am listing all the problems that will go with it (there are a LOT!) but it would be lovely.

And now ALL my daytime meetings have been cancelled so I'm sat in front of my computer drumming my fingers and trying not to obsess (it's not working).

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I’d just pop out and buy one if I were you… waiting all day for Amazon would drive me nuts

I think you need to scrub floors, strip beds, or do whatever it takes to take your mind off the waiting!

Good luck, though. You must be so nervous but I imagine there’s a hint of excitement in there. I hope it’s the outcome you want.

@Coffeellama You're right of course but DH works from home too and I don't want to say anything until I have something to say and I'm CRAP at lying.

But Amazon says it'll be here by 2.30pm so I reckon I can make it....

Hope he doesn't question the delivery 😬

Oh I need to know how this turns out and that you get the result you want op! Although my serious head says peri.

And I messed it up because there's no control line.
Bugger.
Off to get another one.

Argh, no! That only ever happens when you don't have any more in the house 🤦🏻‍♀️ Hope you can get another (maybe a two pack 😉) and get an answer today.

Oh no!!!!! How annoying. Xx

Your reaction to the result will tell you everything, OP. I hope it all works out for you, whatever it is you want.

I'm the same age and same thing last month, AF eventually arrived CD 41 ( always CD26) had metallic taste, etc. BFN. This month I'm now on CD 32 ( had spotting for a week, which ive also never had) no point testing as defo think it's peri 😢

@Treacle81 I'm sorry. I suspect that I will be the same. The fact I can't quite remember when my December period was has probably given me false hope. I have calmed down a bit now. Will see what happens tomorrow and get another if no obvious change.

It was a no, but thanks for keeping me company. x

I say tell DH you are craving chocolate or whatever you don’t have in the he and drive to the shop and buy a couple of packs and test tonight’s and tomorrow morning so you know and can get some sleep.

Sorry to hear that @Viogner

Hope you're ok.

Very sorry for the crossed post and sorry to hear that.
Please make sure you tell your DH what you thought and how you felt, don’t go through it alone. He’ll be able to guess something isn’t right and you’re upset anyway.