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Medical Abortion @ 8 Weeks

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LouLou9401 · 23/01/2023 19:25

Hi Everyone :)

I am 8 weeks pregnant and undergoing a medical abortion via the pill. I thought I would share my experience for other women going through the same thing. I found it really helpful to read through other women's experiences and after looking at endless horrifying stories, I did come across some positive experiences that made me feel a little reassured. Every woman is different and I think its important we share, even if it only helps one person.

I took the first pill this morning and haven't experienced any thing untoward yet - There is definitely movement going on in that region though so I hope that it's actually working!

I have prepped all my alarms to take painkillers and have snacks/hot water bottle ready to go. I am even going to do some yoga before the x4 pills so my body is completely relaxed. I am still a little terrified at how painful this is going to be though and I must say, after researching other women's experiences (mainly negative that came up), I do think it has massively helped me to mentally prepare for the worst pain ever when I have to take the second set tomorrow. Means that if it isn't very painful, I will be glad it didn't get any worse.

I definitely think the medical professionals downplay what's going to happen so I really wanted to research from every aspect - I'm really glad I did! (The one time my health hypochondriac self has actually worked lol)

I spoke to the Nurse last week and she actually said the symptoms tend to be worse if you do it orally as the dissolved pills have to pass through the digestive system causing more nausea/vomiting and stomach cramps so I am hoping my experience is slightly different tomorrow putting them inside the vagina instead.

Interestingly a lot of the negative stories have come from women who have taken the pills orally, that's not saying taking them vaginally will be any different but it has given me some sort of reassurance!

I will update you guys after I've recovered from the second set of pills tomorrow.

If you guys have any 'positive' experiences at the 8/9 week mark, I would love to hear it,

Wish me luck! 🙂

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Plantfairydoll16888 · 25/01/2023 11:26

Hi. How did things go for you? Hope you are well x

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LouLou9401 · 25/01/2023 15:04

Hello!

HONEST REVIEW

So the second set of pills, I took at 12.30 - pain was bearable for a couple of hours but I'll be honest, it got really intense for about 3 hours late afternoon, but its not constant, it like waves of cramping so in-between I made sure to have a boiling hot water bottle and took painkillers (I don't think they worked for the first hour) I then passed about 4 clots after the cramping had died down and passed two more clots at about 9pm. TMI - one of these clots looked quite fleshy and the other one was about the shape and size of a kidney bean so I'm assuming this was it.

Woke up this morning feeling much better, still have light cramps like a period but less bleeding so hoping the worst is over!

I definitely think it didn't help googling other women's experiences as most of the stories were negative haha. I really worked myself up into a panic before but I knew I had to do it.

The cramping in those 3 hours and the anxiety before was definitely the worst part for me but they weren't constant, so in-between the waves, I used a very hot water bottle and took pills - I reckon it would have been unbearable for me if I didn't take the codeine.
I think it's important to remember how amazing our bodies are and how they can adapt to a situation. You will get through it!

Thanks for asking :)

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Finalbaby · 25/02/2023 09:07

@LouLou9401 I'm so pleased I came across this thread! I'll be taking the first tablet when they arrive today and plan on taking the second and third set tomorrow after 24hrs. What was recovery like? Were you able to go about your day as normal the day after the last tablets? I'm due back to work on Monday nightshift so worried I'll be unable to go. Thank you!

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LouLou9401 · 25/02/2023 10:22

Hello!

I still had cramps and bleeding for about 2 weeks but think of it like a period where you go about your day anyway, just take painkillers and rest or take breaks if you can and you'll be fine.

I was more tired than anything, I slept alot the few days after

Good luck! 😊

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Finalbaby · 25/02/2023 10:58

Thank you so much. I took the first an hour ago so fingers crossed it's smooth sailing. X

mum4boys4 · 21/03/2023 21:58

@LouLou9401 Thank you for your post. It has helped me. I hope that you are okay @Finalbaby? I am trying to get myself mentally prepared to take them at the weekend. I think being in limbo land has been the worst. Having doubts sometimes too. I just couldn't face taking them over Mother's Day weekend 😭 I'm not afraid of the pain as I've been through labour without pain meds the last time. I think my pain threshold his quite high but I'm scared to see the pregnancy pass. I don't know if I could cope with it. I will be 7.5 weeks at the weekend when I do it. I just worry about how I will feel after. Both me and my partner agree that we wouldn't cope with another with our 4 boys already. Life is a struggle sometimes and we are both early 40s. My first reaction when my period was late was to look up medical abortion, we took the morning after pill too so my head is telling me to trust my gut but still makes it hard.

Finalbaby · 21/03/2023 23:14

@mum4boys4 I'm absolutely fine, it's been just over 3 weeks now and I have absolutely no regrets. It was the best decision for me and my girls. I didn't see anything pass at all, I felt it but I didn't look after. If you're totally set on it and you have no doubts whatsoever you'll be just fine. If I was having any doubts I couldn't have gone through with it. I did worry that I would regret it but I don't, I just focussed on the positives of not having another baby which helped too. Good luck x

mum4boys4 · 21/03/2023 23:32

Thank you. Yes I think I will be the same - I won't look at what's going in the toilet and I think you will just now by the feel of it. I'm sure we will be fine. It's defo the right choice. We already have a busy life with our boys. We both feel too old to go through it all again. Hopefully this time next week I will feel lighter and will start to move forward. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me.

hexagon123 · 22/03/2023 11:15

Should your abortion

hexagon123 · 22/03/2023 11:17

Finalbaby · 21/03/2023 23:14

Three weeks....

Finalbaby · 22/03/2023 12:03

@hexagon123 3 weeks since my medical abortion...I'm not sure what your question is.

hexagon123 · 22/03/2023 15:01

Finalbaby · 22/03/2023 12:03

@hexagon123 3 weeks since my medical abortion...I'm not sure what your question is.

How long did you have to
Wait?

Finalbaby · 22/03/2023 15:43

@hexagon123 with the clinic at my local hospital it was 2 and a half weeks I had to wait for my first appointment and they said I would then have to wait another week for treatment. I managed to get an earlier appointment with bpas over the phone and received the tablets through the post the next day.

mummyofanange · 17/07/2023 15:22

Appreciate this post, this is our 5th baby but unplanned. And my four babies I have had some horror stories, our third girly was still born and to live through that has been the worst ever. I decided to try for our rainbow and his pregnancy was just so hard and his birth etc. he is here and ok, but after our girly and then my rainbow I just don't think I have it in me anymore! I feel this is so wrong of me to do but I just can't go through anymore pain or pregnacies, I know that for sure now! I feel so bad for thinking this and doing this! I'm absolutely struggling with sickness and looking after my kiddies now, and I'm having to wait until 26th July which feels like a lifetime away, so the wait and wasting my days plus the anticipation of what it's going to be like! I'm crying everyday because I don't want to do this but I know it's for the best for me, this baby and my kiddos here! My husband agrees but I'm just barely coping each day, this wait is no good! Anyone have any reassurance, I will be around 7.5 weeks, I'm terrified! :,( :,(

K1111 · 31/07/2023 07:59

I received my pills yesterday, made the decision to wait till today to start. I'm terrified, I know I'm making the right choice but that doesn't make any easier. My family is complete this was unexpected. I feel sick everyday. Trying to keep it together for my children but so hard. I'm scared and feel so guilty. I know I'm doing the right thing, I just couldn't cope with another baby

ohbaby03 · 31/07/2023 11:07

Sorry I haven't been on in a while, it's not as bad as people build up in their heads. Just make sure you're comfortable and have your children looked after. Lots of snacks you like and plenty of juice and painkillers. I spent the day in bed during mine and binged a box set. Hope you're both ok x

Reclaimingmylife · 11/09/2023 19:23

So today I’ve made the decision that I am going ahead with the abortion. I’ve been in contact with a clinic that sends kits to my home and I can do it there. I just feel this overwhelming level of guilt and shame. I wanted to have this man’s children. Before all of the abuse and he’s literally taken that from me because he couldn’t control himself and now I feel forced into this choice I’ve made. I was in an abusive relationship with a school friend, god knows I loved this man before he started to physically abuse me.

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