People messaging when you’re due

[Puddinggulper]

Hi,

Has anyone else had any experiences with almost everyone they know messaging to ‘see how you are/check in’ right around your due date?

I thought it was a widely acknowledged cardinal rule that you don’t bother a pregnant woman around her due date? But I’ve had almost everyone I know texting to see how I am, quite obviously wondering if the baby has arrived. I’ve no idea why they can’t just wait for the announcement on Facebook.

My usually level headed mother has also gone insane and has been acting really strangely and is telling me to go for walks/have sex etc. I know she’s desperate for her first grandchild but I was 2 weeks overdue so she should know they’ll just come when they come.

I’m getting really fed up of being messaged. And all from people who I thought knew better and would absolutely be thinking they’d better give me space and wait patiently to be told!

I have never heard of such a "cardinal rule". Be happy that people care about you. You can always mute their messages if you don't want to be disturbed.

I had this. I had some days with 15 messages a day. It was too much for me. So I sent an email to everybody who was doing it regularly, thanking them for asking, letting them know I was over due and that I was going to take some time away from my phone until baby arrived then I'd send photos.

That was day 10 of being overdue. I went to 14 days (42 weeks).

For the next pregnancy I gave everybody the 43 week date.

It was all well-intentioned but facing an induction was very stressful for me (first timer) and I wanted to have peace the second time around if that stress happened again.

Oh gosh I went 13 days overdue and I got to a point where they'd text to "check in" and I'd just text people back with "yes. I'm still pregnant".

I’m due on Tuesday, and DH and I are both getting constant messages asking if there have been “any signs?” It’s driving me mad.

I don’t know what they want to hear. Unless I’m actively in labour, any signs are waaay too personal to be telling other people. Unless they want to know that we had sex yesterday and afterwards I had a load of pain in my cervix which I’m hoping means something. 🙄

I used to reply. "Still pregnant, will let you know when that changes. " At least it put a stop to the ones you thought were being nosy rather than genuinely concerned for your welfare.
I enjoyed hearing from my good friend - in fact moaned to them a lot about still being pregnant 😂

It drove me mad. And my phone going off constantly after I had baby drove me mad. Wish I'd just turned it off. And if I ever have another I won't be telling anyone the due date.

@AnnieApple123 I am going to remember this!

This didn't bother me at all tbh, but everyone's different.

I also have no qualms at all about not responding immediately to a message if I'm busy/overwhelmed. So it really doesn't bother me if people want to check in on me

I found it very comforting that people were thinking of me. The last couple of weeks of pregnancy can be lonely. People have busy lives, it's nice to be remembered I think.
However, I would never text with a question such as "any sign?". But it seems unkind not to text with a quick message of support and to let the woman know you're thinking of her.

I told people who asked that they will come when they are ready which seemed to stop the questions. And literally said to my mum and MIL not to keep asking and we’d tell them when baby arrived. And also changed my WhatsApp status to haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

People did this with my first born CONSTANTLY but what p*seed me off was it was the people who don't really care and won't message during the first 8 months of pregnancy and 100% won't message you after to see how you are and they just want to be nosey.

If u can do without ur phone? Id silence messenger etc. maybe keep calls n texts on. And pick up it like 3 times a day? Lol just three lots of checking annoying messages lmao

@flowersinmyhair15

Yes I agree. I had an aunty and cousin desperate to see my newborn. They have never bothered to see him since and he is nearly 2 now.

It's the absolute worst.
None of them ever asked to come & see my son and they also never messaged me afterwards😂

Put this on your social media or send it to them

😂 glad to know it’s not just me!

How very dare people care about you!!
I think it’s lovely that they’re thinking about you at an exciting but also anxious time.
Just send out a quick ‘nothing happening yet, I’ll let you know when there’s some news!

My sister had this. She said at the time that for some reason about 5 people she knows (and not very close friends or family) became obsessed with needing to be the first to know that she had given birth. She called them ‘BBC News 24’ at the time.

That was my DFIL! " Any news?" God bless him; it was irritating, but from a good place really...