Pregnancy and seperation

[Bean310]

I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years now a one child from previous. Over the time he's never been spending alot of time was secretive about his ex wife and reluctant to commit although there was a proposal but was not romantic and didn't feel real. We are now nearly 3 months pregnant and he is totally unsupportive is very cold emotionally and causes so much upset constantly accusing me of lies or affairs and has no concern over my feelings or thoughts. He says he wants to be separate we don't live together but wants the baby I can't see how the lack of support or kindness or finances he is self employed can give me confidence after raising my first alone. I feel really emotional and really hurt and very stupid for not seeing the signs and still expecting things to get better

If self employed he will likely find ways to avoid paying child maintenance. I have no idea why you would have a baby with him when this has been going on a while but I guess you have your reasons. All you can do now is focus on accepting you are likely going to end up being a single parent, build up a support network around yourself and try to build up a cushion financially for when you are on mat leave. There will no doubt be benefits you can claim if you are on a low income.