First Trimester Anxiety

[Rachel013]

Hi, I’m currently just over 5 weeks. Feeling anxious, and taking pregnancy tests still just to make sure the pregnancy is “still there”. Is this normal to feel anxious?

I have my first midwife appointment in a few weeks where I’ll discuss this, but I never realised how difficult the first trimester could be mentally. I wasn’t prepared for the hormones and over thinking.

Hi @Rachel013 is this your first pregnancy?

Usually anxiety comes as a result of 2 things 1- a previous loss or 2. You've been trying for a while.

Which both boil down to the same thing - we really want this baby and the baby to be ok. And that....is motherhood, for the rest of your life.

So yep, perfectly normal. However I would advise stepping back from the tests, they drive you crazy (speaking from experience), if the line is a little lighter, or looks thinner or slightly different we can over analyse.

Tell yourself that right now you are pregnant and you are doing everything you can to create a safe environment for your baby.

Best of luck x

Is this your first pregnancy or have you had a miscarriage previously? Just so you're aware and not to be unkind but even if you do miscarry your pregnancy tests will still show as positive due to the hormone levels in your body. I just wanted to put it out there as it sounds like this could be a false way to relieve your anxiety.

My first pregnancy I didn't have any anxiety. I naively trotted through the whole thing blissfully unaware of anything. However since then I've had two miscarriages - my third pregnancy was not enjoyable at all and sadly we discovered our baby had passed.

Pregnancy is so incredibly precious and so incredibly outside of our control.

I was the exact same. I cried at my booking in. I was convinced it would last. No previous loss, one month of trying.

My 1 year old is currently breast feeding in my arms.

I know it's hard but try and distract yourself. Don't Google symptoms. I booked in for a private scan at 8 weeks and it was amazing.

Good luck

I was convinced it WOULDN'T last, that should say

I’m 9 weeks and had 2 losses before this at around 5 weeks. I finding it hard to believe it will be ok so have a private scan booked for Sunday as I know if a heartbeat is seen on a scan over 8 weeks then the chances of miscarriage drop. I know it’s still possible but a lot lower.

I had my daughter 7 years ago and never even considered a miscarriage but after having 2 it’s on my mind a lot.

I know how it feels OP but we just have to take each day as it comes and remind ourselves that today we are pregnant

I haven’t had a miscarriage and I suffered with crippling anxiety.
4-12 weeks especially were hell and my little man was a surprise.
I’ve just had my anatomy scan and I’ve only now felt comfortable to properly announce to everyone.
Biggest advice would be to stay off google.
Sending hugs and sticky baby dust ✨❤️

Thank you everyone for your kind words and advice. Xx

@Rachel013 I think the thing is with pregnancy that you just never know how you’ll find it until you’re in it. I always thought I’d be pretty relaxed in pregnancy but I was more anxious than I’ve ever been in my life 😳
For the first 12 weeks I was a wreck! Convinced myself that I’d be fine after the 12 week scan but I wasn’t. Convinced myself I’d be fine after the 20 week scan - I wasn’t 😳 then it was “I’ll be fine once I can properly feel baby moving” - but I wasn’t 😬 I was them constantly anxious about whether of not they were moving to little it too much.

I think what I struggled with was being so out of control! I hated the thought that I could do everything “right” and follow all the guidelines etc and yet things could still go wrong.

Definitely mention it to your midwife when you meet her 😊 but I agree with @Passenger87 - no more tests. Best of luck for a healthy happy pregnancy 😊