Suddenly don't feel ready

[yvonneb13]

Hi everyone I'm 36 weeks pregnant and I'm having so much anxiety knowing that I'm gonna be responsible for another human being I've been so fine this was a planned pregnancy and now I'm terrified incase I don't know what to do or don't have anything I need.

Normal!!! :) aw it will all be fine. Do something nice this next four weeks. Go to the cinema, go for late night drives, go swimming, have a long bath (all things I found difficult with a newborn)
And you have everything a baby needs. All they want is cuddles and to be held and cuddling them all the time is not 'making a rod for your own back' it makes them feel safe and secure. Will be lovely!

My youngest is 7 and I still don’t feel ready!

what you’re feeling is normal I promise, there is no rule book and it’s scary but once your baby is here you will be fine I promise. As long as they have food, nappies, clothes, and somewhere to sleep (and a car seat to go home in) they have everything they need and for any last minute bits someone can pop out for you if necessary.

Im sure you’ll be a great mum x

You will be great 😊 Take it one step at a time. All you need to sort is the bag for the hospital first. You get a lot of help in there to change nappies, put their little clothes on etc. It’s a very different feeling to the one you have when you go to someone’s house and have a hold of their newborn. There’s no one you can offend when it’s yours! You just figure out one thing at a time. As long as you feed them, change their nappy and give them a safe place to sleep you won’t go far wrong! All the ‘stuff’ can be overwhelming

This, plus general pregnancy insomnia, literally kept me awake for nights on end with DD. I didn’t tell anyone how worried I was it just quietly plagued me. What if I didn’t recognise the baby. What if I had no maternal instinct. What if it wasn’t at all how I’d expected it to be. The whole thing.

I saw her and looked at her tiny wrinkled face and just knew it was going to be okay. And so far it has and the next one will be here soon.

It’s so completely normal, LOADS of people I know told me that afterwards! You’ll be fine.

And once she was born I started sleeping so much better. Yes she woke to feed but being up with a baby has so much more point than just being awake for no bloody reason.

You will be fine!

Especially a planned pregnancy. I'm guessing this is your first. Once baby is a few weeks you would barely remember life without them.

You don't need a lot to get by and anything else can be ordered. Try relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Enjoy!

I'm 32. My children are 13, 9 and 7. I'm expecting DC4.

I still have moments where I think "I cannot believe I'm a parent and responsible for all of these humans". Every child and every stage is different! But somehow you just do it.

Even if it doesn't come naturally it is easy to learn because you just know your children so well. It'll all be okay ❤️