Feeling a bit overwhelmed.

[FebMama]

Currently 37 weeks pregnant with DS2 but had a terrible day with DS1 today and feeling rubbish about it. I just felt like I snapped at him all day long because of how clingy he is becoming and how exhausted I'm feeling. It's making me really anxious about the arrival of DS2 because I know DS1 will find it tough.

There will be a 3 year age gap between the two. I have no doubt that it'll be tough to begin with but I would love to hear some positives and heart warming stories from those who have been in a similar boat.

I'm feeling really deflated tonight. One of those nights where I was counting down every minute until bedtime but now he's in bed, I feel really crap.

Just wanted to say I had the exact same day, I'm 36 weeks pregnant. You're not alone. Currently sat in bed feeling crap about it all x

Can speak from parenting experience but myself and my sister have a 3 year gap and even though we are completely different people we were always thick as thieves.

I have a few friends who have this kind of age gap with their kids and it really helps both kids to socialise, set boundaries, and learn to communicate with their peers.

@Louiseem sorry to hear you're feeling crappy too. It's not nice is it. I had a warm bath and now catching up with some telly on the sofa, feeling slightly more refreshed but still a sense of mum guilt. Promising myself I'll do better tomorrow.

@Passenger87 thanks for this. I have a 3 year age gap with my sister too. I know so many with an even smaller age gap, it's just tough trying to navigate such big emotions and with such a big transition looming, I'm worried about how I'm going to juggle my own emotions as well as DS1's at the same time.

Don't be so hard on yourself, I found being pregnant with a toddler soo much harder than having a toddler and a new born, I think you'll feel much better once baby comes x

@K37529 thank you, that's really reassuring ❤️

Just wanted to send a message of reassurance. I have a 3 year gap between my two, they’re 2 & 5 now and get on so well. I found the end stage of pregnancy way harder than I did having a newborn and toddler. Once baby is here you’ll soon find your groove and seeing them together will be worth all the stress. Don’t be so hard on yourself - I bet you’re doing an amazing job. x

@Marshmallow2023 that is such a lovely message, thank you ❤️ really promising to hear x

The honest answer? The first couple of months were a bit mad. Later, when baby starts taking an interest in the world around, it gets very much easier because they have an entertaining older sibling, and your older child will have an 'audience'. It'll be ok.

3.5 years between DS and DD - pregnancy was much harder and more stressful than when she was here. She just slotted in and he gradually got more interested in her as she started to become more human. It was so sweet to see her on her playmat watching him and smiling. And he was very proud to show off 'his baby' to his friends at nursery.

Thank you @Sapphire387 and @georgarina

@georgarina another person who says that pregnancy plus a toddler is harder than when the baby is here - definitely what I need to hear!

Feeling much better today. Think yesterday was just one of those days.

@FebMama I'm 40+4 with a 3yo. It's absolutely exhausting but the end is nigh!

@Kindofcrunchy I feel your pain! I think I'd be pulling my hair out if I was over my due date too! Hope you are feeling as well as can be and all the best with your new arrival 🥰