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Requesting scans on a certain date?

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Glowz · 19/01/2023 09:07

Hi. I had my first child during covid. I had to go to every appointment on my own and every scan. Private scans around us were not operating so my husband missed everything. I even had an appointment which I didn't realise at the time due to lack of communication that was in regards to my previous removal of some of my cervix and I'd had to have a stitch. They wouldn't let me ring my husband to talk about this or let him in to hear the pros and cons of the stitch. At the time I had no idea what was going on.

Basically, now we have our child we are limited with Childcare. They are in nursery 2 days a week and my mums one morning. She can't do any other help as she still works full time and MIL isn't safe on her own for more than an hour (one way to hospital for scans is 40mins on its own). My question is, has anyone had luck asking if scans can be on a certain day (in my case I have 2 days which would be best) so my husband can come with me. I really can't do it all on my own again as I had quite a traumatic pregnancy and the thought of him having too watch our son whilst I go in for scans on my own is giving me major anxiety.

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PinkVitamins · 19/01/2023 09:32

You can ask but many scan depts are incredibly busy and some may only operate their scanning clinics on certain days.
Could your mum maybe ask for annual leave to cover the scans if needed? Even if you're on a high risk pathway there aren't loads and loads of scans and chances are most of them will be on the days your son is already in nursery / with your mum (as he's in half the week).

DestinysGrandchild · 19/01/2023 09:41

You could always ask but it probably wouldn't be a definite. They are busy.

We had to book the next appointment after we came out of the scan so maybe you could try and do this to fit it in better, if you don't already. They asked us what time and day worked best for us.

My partner works away for months at a time and luckily it managed to get booked in for when he's actually home.

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Glowz · 19/01/2023 09:43

I didn't get chance to book last time, again though it was covid. It's really stressing me out and I know I should be relaxing.

I'm also stressing about my due date. It was a planned pregnancy but I want to avoid a baby born in August due to the school year and impact on education, based on calcs its due 27th August so that's stressing me out. Kinda wish I had the magical excitement I felt with my first

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MolesOnPoles · 19/01/2023 09:45

My hospital are very flexible with scans. Obviously they can’t do every time and more notice is better, but I’ve had tp change a few times due to work and they’ve always been helpful.

Sirzy · 19/01/2023 09:46

If it’s important then your husband needs to talk to work and get the time off. You can’t pick and choose when NHS appointments are.

mumoffourminimes · 19/01/2023 09:48

Just call up and change it. I've always had to move mine around school hours etc

mumoffourminimes · 19/01/2023 09:49

Sirzy · 19/01/2023 09:46

If it’s important then your husband needs to talk to work and get the time off. You can’t pick and choose when NHS appointments are.

Yes you can! It's not a summons 🙄

mumoffourminimes · 19/01/2023 09:50

Glowz · 19/01/2023 09:43

I didn't get chance to book last time, again though it was covid. It's really stressing me out and I know I should be relaxing.

I'm also stressing about my due date. It was a planned pregnancy but I want to avoid a baby born in August due to the school year and impact on education, based on calcs its due 27th August so that's stressing me out. Kinda wish I had the magical excitement I felt with my first

You can start them the year after in England, no need to stress. My august born is flying at school though.

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Glowz · 19/01/2023 10:15

Its not my husbands work thats the issue. Its childcare. Did you read my post 🙄

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Yoyooo · 19/01/2023 10:16

Why did he miss the appointments with your first baby?

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Glowz · 19/01/2023 10:20

Luckily both our works are flexible. We can go to any appointment and paid for time off.

If we weren't in covid for the the 1st it wouldn't be as much of an issue. I just don't want husband missing it due to childcare. Mum can book time off as already short staffed where she is. Will just hope for some flexibility

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Glowz · 19/01/2023 10:21

Covid. He wasn't allowed in. It was crap cos 2 weeks after 12 week scan they started allowing partners, same for 20 week. I asked everyttime if he could come into appointments and was told no

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RestrictedSection · 19/01/2023 10:23

For the routine scans that were booked weeks in advance, I could pretty much pick any date and time. When I booked my 20 week scan after my 12 week one, the woman organising it completely understood that making it easier for my DH to attend was a very good reason for choosing a Wednesday afternoon,

Even for the non routine/urgent scans I had, I was given the number of the radiology department to call if the time didn’t work for me. There was no guarantee then that they could have fit me in exactly when I’d wanted, and our priority was me getting the scan asap even if DH couldn’t come, but I could always have called up and asked.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 19/01/2023 10:24

I want to avoid a baby born in August due to the school year and impact on education
Honestly i love having an August born child- i wish my second (winter born) was a Summer baby too. They go to school quicker- I know September 1st born babies that were so bored in that final year before starting school. The weather is decent for bdays outside, you have an easy out not to throw a class bday. Hasnt impacted my childs learning at all- yr 1 now and top set for reading.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 19/01/2023 10:26

re: scans though, I was issued a first and then booked everyone after that at the end of each last appointment so could pick the day/ time.
No issue with calling the appointment line and asking- equally you could try and pay for any additional childcare days with the nursery adhoc (ours let us do this if they had space).

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Glowz · 19/01/2023 10:30

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 19/01/2023 10:26

re: scans though, I was issued a first and then booked everyone after that at the end of each last appointment so could pick the day/ time.
No issue with calling the appointment line and asking- equally you could try and pay for any additional childcare days with the nursery adhoc (ours let us do this if they had space).

Yeah I suppose last resort would be contacting nursery although I'm sure they don't. I am on the committee and do a lot of fund raising for them so could always try them. Midwife appointment tomorrow so will find out more then. Its completely different.

Last time I had to wait outside our health center, 6 months pregnant in snow cos you weren't allowed in the building until the midwife was ready for you. Gonna be so different this time.

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hollyhd · 19/01/2023 10:43

I've changed a couple of scans because they weren't convenient and the hospital were very amenable. There is certainly no harm in asking. Maybe wait for the appointment to come through then call to ask if it can be changed? Just be aware that they might not scan every day and you'll have to slot in to an existing clinic so there's no guarantee.

Good luck! I admire anyone who went through this during Covid, I would have hated not to have been able to have my dp by my side during scans.

ChloeN · 19/01/2023 10:44

I’ve seen other ladies say they’ve rang and moved appointments forwards/backwards with no issues so definitely worth a try especially if you explain your previous experience xx

Snugglemonkey · 19/01/2023 10:47

Sirzy · 19/01/2023 09:46

If it’s important then your husband needs to talk to work and get the time off. You can’t pick and choose when NHS appointments are.

You can here. We were able to rearrange our appointments to suit several times.

ChickpeaPie · 19/01/2023 10:57

when you receive your scan appointment just phone up and ask to change it if possible.
my august baby is in the top group at school. Acts babyish compared to some of the older kids but academically doing great

OrcaBlondie · 19/01/2023 16:58

I changed most of mine to a different day/time (have had quite a few as I was having growth scans every 3 weeks). It was never a problem. Give the department a call when you receive your letter x

hellosunshineagainxxx · 19/01/2023 17:01

Currently 31 weeks pregnant with my second

I couldnt choose first scan but they have let me choose all the ones since and I have had a lot as high risk pregnancy for a variety of reasons

Birth date isn't something as important as it feels in your head. Both me and husband and first child are august babies and all ahead of peers.

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