Is having a baby EVEN better than you expected?

[4DaysandCounting]

Hello! I have't got very long to go now till I'm due, and I still can't quite believe that this bump is going to turn into a baby! I read other people's posts and they're so full of excitement and anticipation about their little baby which is lovely but I just can't seem to 'feel' anything very much at the moment (although I'm not unhappy or anything). Having wanted a baby for so long, I'm suddenly really worried that I'm not very maternal or something. I just wondered if anybody felt like sharing any inspirational stories about how having a baby (not necessarily the giving birth bit though!) is EVEN BETTER than you expected? I'm sorry if this is a bit weird, or if it doesn't belong here.

it sounds like you might be one of those mum's who can't really believe in the baby before it comes out - and so can't get that excited about it. i spent a lot of time worrying about the birth and didn't think much about thed baby.
It took me a while to warm up with ds1(i think i was shy believe it or not!), but the overwellming urge to protect and care was there staight away.When you have your 2nd it's better because you know how nice they are.
you sound normal to me, but what do i know

yep - I didn't have great expectations of myself as a mother but I love it. Also I didn't feel excited at your stage of pregnancy just fat, tired and fed up tbh.

My little girl is lovely and being a mum is more interesting as she gets older and more interactive (12 weeks noww)

Good luck x

I was the least maternal person I knew before having my own. Work colleagues even said they could never imagine me having children. Even when heavily pregnant I couldn't relate to mums with babies.

I think newborn babies are pretty horrid looking and was happily prepared to think the same of my own. But when he was born I couldn't get over and couldn't understand how he could be so utterly gorgeous.

I had thought it very sensible that the midwives in hospital could look after baby while you had a sleep - after he was born, when they offered to take him for me until the next feed I said "NOOOOO WAY!"

I am now 29 weeks pregnant with my 6th.

Stop worrying and prepare to take things hour by hour, day by day and enjoy!

OH YES EVEN BETTER than in my wildest dreams

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hi 4days!

Sounds pretty normal to me. I felt just like you and (shocking confession) felt the same after the birth of ds as well. He was lovely etc etc but I didn't really LOVE him like the other mums seemed to love their babies. It was only gradually and slowly that the wonder, amazement and feeling of overwhelming luck at being his mum seeped in.

There's no such thing as how you should feel so don't worry.

Do you know other mums in the area?