Don't feel very strong

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This is a bit "woe is me" - I know people have it so much worse, and I have much admiration for how they cope because I'm not sure I could.

I am pregnant with dc2 - 7 weeks.
My last pregnancy was horrific with sickness and nausea, all the way to the end.

It wasn't HG, I could still keep weight on, I just had to eat almost constantly to prevent vomiting.

I put on so much weight, had a traumatic and scary birth and then a newborn in lockdown with colic who cried unless held for 4 months.

I know I'm far from alone in experiencing all this. It's just that last time around I felt stronger somehow. This time with the sickness in full force again, I can't seem to muster up the energy and strength to think it's going to be ok.

I am already messing up at work, struggling to play with my toddler and eating all the carbs.

Any words of wisdom or strength to help me shift this negative mindset? Dc2 is very much loved and wanted already

Hopeful bump

My second pregnancy was so hard, I was so much sicker the second time round and running around after my toddler was so hard so I really understand how you feel it is so hard and the first trimester is the worst, it does get easier though ❤️If it makes you feel any better my first cried all the time unless held and would only sleep in my arms for about the first 6 months I was like a zombie. I had to wake my second up for feeds, he slept round the clock, he was the easiest baby. Not saying that will happen to you but I was mentally prepared for how hard it was going to be and he was just so easy.

Totally empathise, I'm 29 weeks with dc2 and it's been such a slog. Did not enjoy pregnancy last time round due to sickness (also had to eat all the carbs to keep it at bay) and this time round it's been even less enjoyable as there's far less downtime with dc1 to look after. The first 12 weeks were so hard but after I'd got through the first trimester and was able to tell dc1 and share the excitement with him that has really helped as its just amazing to see how excited he is about having a sibling. So that's great motivation :)

Oh also - when ttc I told myself I'd eat healthily during my second pregnancy and exercise throughout, reality has been very different 🤣 You just do what you have to do to cope - eat whatever you need to help with the sickness, rest as and when you can, if dc1 has more screen time don't beat yourself up about it.

Omg this! I was adamant I'd do lots of walking and eat X, Y and Z. But in reality, I ate what I could stomach and now I'm 34w with SPD, just walking around the house causes me loads of pain. You can't plan can you. Just have faith and take it a day at a time. Very much looking forward to not being pregnant 😂

Sorry OP, my reply wasn't very helpful. I've previously had great pregnancies and I'm currently suffering daily and high risk. I'm quite okay today, but at times feel miserable.

All I can say is you're not alone! Don't put any internal pressure on yourself. Just do your best, it feels like we're pregnant forever when we are, but very soon we won't be and it will be a relatively small bump in the road of our lives.

I'm sending solidarity. X

Thank you all so much and sorry I took a while to see all your lovely replies.
Thanks for the solidarity, sometimes it is just nice to hear you're not alone!

If u can
i sacked work off very early
i do get HG and know it wasnt gona just ease anytime soon
i have two kids and culdnt so it all
i do get sickpay so possibly a lucky one
but i signed off work wen i culd because i dint have the atrentgth even with an amazing supportive husband it was hard!!
drugs all the way for aickness only way through