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People touching my bump

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twinmumtobe23 · 12/01/2023 18:41

I was leaving my house the other morning when my neighbour (who knows I am expecting twins) came over to me all excited and put her hands straight on my bump.

It makes me feel uncomfortable when people do this but I'd feel really rude just pulling away.

Anyone else feel the same?

Any tips for what to say or should I just not say anything?

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HadEnoughOfBears · 12/01/2023 18:43

Slap their hands away really hard.
They won't do it again.

Twoblueboots · 12/01/2023 18:53

Start rubbing their belly too?

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twinmumtobe23 · 12/01/2023 19:12

Twoblueboots · 12/01/2023 18:53

Start rubbing their belly too?

Brilliant 😂

You're right though, it's exactly the same

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twinmumtobe23 · 12/01/2023 19:12

HadEnoughOfBears · 12/01/2023 18:43

Slap their hands away really hard.
They won't do it again.

As much as I would love to do that, I'm not brave enough.

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rubygiz · 12/01/2023 20:54

There are only 4 people that can touch my bump is my OH, his kids and my bestie anyone else gets the F off look

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twinmumtobe23 · 12/01/2023 22:41

rubygiz · 12/01/2023 20:54

There are only 4 people that can touch my bump is my OH, his kids and my bestie anyone else gets the F off look

Love it!!

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BoodifulGoose · 13/01/2023 08:38

I can understand not being brave enough to slap their hands away (although think this will be my approach!)

But if you are brave enough, it's absolutely not rude to pull away, and I think a very clear "You did not ask, and I did not consent to being touched by you." should get the message across and give them a proper chance to think about how weird what they just did is.

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twinmumtobe23 · 13/01/2023 18:17

BoodifulGoose · 13/01/2023 08:38

I can understand not being brave enough to slap their hands away (although think this will be my approach!)

But if you are brave enough, it's absolutely not rude to pull away, and I think a very clear "You did not ask, and I did not consent to being touched by you." should get the message across and give them a proper chance to think about how weird what they just did is.

Thank you!

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