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Blighted ovum

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Helen1518 · 11/01/2023 00:51

Hi everyone.

So last week when I should have been 7+5 I went to the hospital and got a scan due to pain on one side. They worried it was ectopic. However all was fine, I had a large cyst but I was measuring only 5 weeks. Only a gestational sac was found. They advised I probably got my dates wrong and have scheduled me for another scan next week.
Today however, I have started bleeding and cramping. I know deep down its been a blighted ovum and I'm now losing this baby/pregnancy. Its heart breaking as I had 2 miscarriages last year too. This pregnancy actually happened immediately after our last loss. So it felt a real blessing and a sign.
I'm lucky enough to have 2 beautiful, healthy children already but I'm beyond devastated that this is happening again. My partner, eldest son and I were so excited and so happy. Delighted that this pregnancy had made it to 7 plus weeks.
My partner had said he couldn't go through it again as its been a pretty gutting year. We have both been so excited, making plans etc so it seems wholly unfair.
All I want is another baby before I'm too old (I'm 35 now, have pcos also) I just can't believe it. These babies have been loved immensely from day one.
I'd happily try immediately after this or at least after a period but he says its too difficult going through a loss again.
What should I do?
I love him dearly and don't want to lose him but how can we resolve this?
I know it's early to be thinking such things as I'm in the process of a mc but I need the hope of having my rainbow baby one day or I feel I will really suffer mentally this time round.
Any advice is really appreciated, thanks.

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Emilia35 · 11/01/2023 08:27

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've also had a blighted ovum a year ago so I know how awful it is.

If your partner isn't able to try again, you can't pressure him at this time. I know it feels like being pregnant is the only thing that will make it better, I've been there and we did try straight away but I didn't fall pregnant and that added devastation each month (on top of already grieving the loss of a pregnancy) so it may have been healthier to wait.

He may change his mind and decide to try again in a few months. Give him and yourself some time to heal and focus on your wonderful children.

All the best

Helen1518 · 11/01/2023 12:12

Thanks so much for replying. So sorry for your loss.
Yea I think you are right, we need time to heal and to grieve. 3 losses in a short time is a lot to process really.
I wish you all the best and so hope we get our rainbow babies one day 💕 xx

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PritiPatelsMaker · 11/01/2023 13:38

I had a suspected Blighted Ovum but it was actually a Partial Molar.

Devastating isn't it?

I'd give yourself both time to grieve and give you're self time to recover physically and mentally.

35 is not too old. I went on to have another baby at 39.

There's time yet for your DH to change his mind.

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