Midwife saying I'm trying to make them deliver me early

[upandmummin]

35.5 weeks, had PPROM weeks ago so high risk, have been having repeated reduced movements and had to go back to the ward in the middle of the night because I felt really sick and like I was having bad period pains. I'm fed up of worrying, feeling unwell and the on/off cramping and to top it off a lovely midwife made out that I'm coming in so often to try and get them to deliver me. She literally said they aren't going to take this baby out any earlier than arranged just because you want them to. I'm so angry that it's being insinuated I'm choosing to spend the last weeks of my pregnancy like this, I haven't once said I want to be delivered now, I just don't want to miss anything given the circumstances so yes when something seems amiss I'm coming in. I'm not lying about anything. Now I feel like I can't go in because I'm pissing them off and they think I'm crazy.

@upandmummin I'm sorry to hear of what you are going through.

That's absolutely disgusting for a midwife to say that to you! If you can, she should definitely be reported. Are you a FTM? I hated going in becasue I felt I was being a nuisance but the midwives here actively encouraged me to go in for the slightest reason. You do right by going in - don't not go in if you feel the need to because of some stroppy midwife. Imagine if she said that to an anxious youngster who then stayed away and the worst happened. Please report her @upandmummin and please keep going in if you feel you need to. 🙏

That’s just awful OP! Can’t believe you were treated like that by the midwife. You are absolutely doing the right thing by going in every time you’re worried, don’t let anyone make you think otherwise.

How long have you got until planned birth? Are you under care of a Consultant and/or could try to speak to one? I think doctors are often more likely to take these concerns seriously.

As a midwife, please keep doing the right thing by going in. Sorry you were spoken to like that. You need to keep putting your baby first

I’m so sorry you were spoken to like this! That’s all you need in the last few weeks!! You keep going in when you feel you need to and ignore her. Mum knows best. Take care

That’s a deeply dangerous and unprofessional thing for her to say. Please try and ignore her. It should have been impressed on you that you should take reduced movements very seriously. Most midwives rightly emphasise that they’d rather people came in for reassurance, even if it turns out to be unnecessary.

Absolutely go in if you feel the need, do not give that a second thought.

also- report that MW!!

This post is from January, she’s well had the baby by now