Pregnancy anxieties

[Bakergirlninteytwo]

I’m new to this but thought I would give it a try. I’m currently early pregnant (9 weeks) with my second baby. My first is my daughter who is now 11. It’s a fairly big age gap and this baby is with a different partner. My partner and my daughter get on really well but haven’t known each other long. We were together and seeing each other a good while before I introduced because I wanted to be as sure as I could before getting to that stage. 4 months after them meeting I’ve found out im pregnant. Both seem happy but im worried im putting so much change on her so quickly. I always talk with her, make sure she’s okay and not push it to much on her. Does anyone have any advice? I get worried she’ll feel potentially pushed out. Up until she met my partner it’s been just the two of us for 10 years! Am I worrying too much?

You're right to worry and it's good to worry. You're a good mother. Try to get her involved with baby as much as you can. If you buy baby clothes get her something too. Let them bond etc. sometimes it's pregnancy hormones making us feel that way. You've got a nice age gap so I'm sure you're kids will adore each other.

When I was at Primary my BFs Mum had a baby and there was a 10 year age gap. Her DM made her feel very included and my BF adored her little sister.

It is a lot of change and I think, like the PP that you are right to worry, but because you worry you'll do your best to make it easier for your DD

Aw you're right, it is a lot of change. But she has the whole pregnancy to adjust. Just keep communication open and get her involved. If you could get a private scan at some point, you can have extra guests and she could come with?

Try not to worry too much ❤️ I am 33w and been with my DP for 2.5 years now, but I still worry about the change for my other DC. It's what we mum's do! Xx

You sound like a great mum. Totally understand why you’re worrying - it is a lot of change - but she has a good few months to get used to it, and I think you did the right thing by holding off on the introductions until you were sure.

Communication is all but sounds like you already recognise that.

wishing you a healthy and easy pregnancy and congratulations on your family x

Thank you everyone, that’s made me feel so much better. :) I’m probably just overthinking it at the moment but her happiness is everything to me! 😄 I can’t help it thinking they may bond better if the baby is a girl? But who knows. There hasn’t been a girl born in my partners family for 50 odd years! Just boys who then pair up with girls and have more boys! 😂 So with that fact, I feel I’ll end up almost definitely having a boy. 🤣 who knows! Still have 3 weeks until my first scan xx