Pregnant after mc last year at 7 weeks and feeling anxious

[kookiegoddess]

Hi, I'm about 6 weeks pregnant and although I'm thrilled to have conceived again, i'm finding it really hard not telling anyone! We told quite a few people last time, quite early on because we were so excited (close friends and family) but now we're not sure what will happen so have told no-one, not even our parents. I'm having lots of crampiness which doesn't help. It's pretty tough not having anyone to share my feelings with (my husband works ridiculous hours although is supportive as he can be) and the 12th week feels like a LIFETIME away. I'm loath to tell my mum because she LOVES to chat and got so excited/happy last time, calling family in the states etc... I spend a lot of time home alone as I'm setting up a business and just don't know what to do or how to make time go by quicker.

Any advice??

calm down is my main advice.rest and be careful what you do.

i lost my first child at 7 weeks & 1 day. i was devastated and thought that every pregnancy would end like that.

i fell pregnant later in that year and had cramps at the start and didnt feel very sick or anything which people say means the pregnancy has a better chance or something like that as the hormones are stronger when you are being sick and feel pregnant!

i am now mum to two boys aged 5 and 6 so it can happen.don't despair.

relax and look after yourself and make sure you are taking any vitamins like folic acid you've been told to take, stay away from peanuts etc and good luck

i really wish you the best of luck.keep us updated how you are going.it can happen and there are loads of us out there who are proof of it.

sending hugs your way XX

Hi.

I haven't had your experience but i can say that posting on mumsnet is a great way to get support from other people - especially when one is experiencing any kind of difficulties. Keep posting whenever you want to talk to someone. Maybe if you told your mum to keep quiet she would.

Just take one day at a time. Lots of luck with your pg and setting up your business.

Hi, I'm ^ weeks pg too, and had a mc in September at around 11 weeks - I don't really have any symptoms, though have had occasional mild period pains - I know how anxious you must be feeling.

At first I didn't want to tell anyone, but then I thought that if anything did go wrong again, I'd want some support, so I've told a friend, and my sisters. I'm going to see if I can get an early scan for reassurance as well. Otherwise I'm just trying to tell myself that most people don't have recurrent miscarriages, staying off caffeine entirely and taking my multi vitamins/folic acid... and hoping for the best.

There's a pregnant after mc thread called knicker checkers anonymous you could try for support as well - lots of success stories to boost your optimism - I hope it works out for you this time

that's 6 weeks, not ^

kookie = i am 5 weeks pregnant and got no symptoms and have been having cramps for a week now. i too am paranoid that it is not right. when are you due? i am in the oct thread if you are due then adn there are alot of us who are going through what you are and we support each other.

Mners will be of great support to you. I'm afraid you lose your innocence after a m/c and will worry but try to take one day at a time and do your best to enjoy your pregnancy. Fwiw I had a m/c at 13 wks and have since had 2dds.

totally, totally understand. all of my mc's have been at around the 6w mark and i found out yesterday tthat we are expecting again. im barely pg and so so scared, but i suppose that at some point you have to say: no, just because it happened before, doesnt mean it will happen again. with every pg it is a clean slate, and i refuse to let the past beat me.

join us on the pg after mc thread, i know its tough, but the odds are in your favour!

Thanks everyone for your support. Have been congratulating myself every hour practically for getting past 6 weeks and am now trying hard to hold on till 8 weeks to tell family (thank goodness I've got 3 birthday cakes and a christening to cook for next week!). I've read that chance of mc goes down to 3% once the doctors see a heartbeat so I'm thinking of going for an early scan next week, just to put my mind at rest. I get very emotional at the thought of the scan tho, I was welling up just reading about other people's early scan experiences!! Will probably blub as soon as they see anything... will have to go armed with man-size kleenex. Have only told one friend who is 8 months pg and she's been a great help already. Am going to hold off telling my mum till I know there's a heartbeat. Will try to stay calm till then.
Thanks again everyone

I had horrible cramps when I first found out I was pregnant and they lasted for weeks, and I also didn't feel in the least bit pregnant, not at all ill or anything although my boobs were extremely painful. Then even that went away and I was freaking out, but all of a sudden I started feeling really ill all the time although not sick and now I don't feel sick but actually end up being sick at whenever my body decides I've enjoyed my food too much . I had a dating scan where they told me i'm 10 weeks and we saw a heartbeat so maybe there is still something wrong but there's certainly something there, so don't think that just because you don't 'feel' pregnant you aren't, that's absolute rubbish, if the test says you are then you are!

Kookiegooness, I know how stressful it can be being pregnant after a mc. There is a really good thread for women who are pregnant after a mc

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/49/464233

It is good to share worries with people who understand.

I too miscarried at 6 wks and am now coming into my 10th week. We didn't tell anyone last time because it seemed it was over before it began. It was really hard telling people what was wrong because I was going on holiday the day after i mc'd. This time we wanted our family to feel some of the happiness we felt when we did the positive test. I am so anxious though. I go to the toilet about 20 times a day, not because I need to just because i have to keep checking. I notice you all talking about an early scan - do you just ask for one of these???? I just want to see the heart beat

I'm going to go for an early scan this Thurs or Friday when I'll be about 7 weeks. This means they should be able to detect a heartbeat. I'm really keen to do this and reassure myself and my husband that things are looking ok. I'm going to St Georges where you can drop in for a scan in the morning 6 days a week. Will let you know how I get on.

Feeling a bit yukky today with an upset tummy and generally not right. Also getting more tired now. Still haven't told my mum and am now looking forward to seeing her face - she'll be so surprised! Hope to see her this week.

Poppins - fingers crossed for you, have just been reading statistics and chances of things going wrong are v v low ie less than one percent after 10 weeks I think.

Thanks for your support kookie - I only found this website yesterday and already answered loads of questions and really suprised with how many people have gone through the same things.

I keep getting twinges in my lower abdomen but I think these are normal - not had any bleedin of any sort but it is such a wierd feeling one minute your extatic and the next you think best not get your hope up...

Generally feeling good about the whole thing though - will keep everyone pposted my 12 weekscan isn't until the 25th Feb seems ages away!!