Not going in after reporting reduced movements?

[caggie3]

What happens? Worried to phone hospital back and say I'm not coming but baby has seemingly woken up and is moving as I'd expect and if I go if means driving myself over an hour when I'm so tired and it'll leave my husband (can't drive as had a drink) without the car and he's taking our 3 year old to a party tomorrow late morning that he's so excited for and I can't be the one to ruin it for him especially when things have picked up. But I'm worrying about what the hospital will say/do?

What are you worried they will say/do?

The only thing I assume they may say is if you experience it again to give them a call. If your now happy with babies movements then there's nothing more they can do x

I don't want them to insist I come in, it is a high risk pregnancy (slow water leak) so I'm sure they'll say to err on side of caution but I don't have the long drive in me and would feel so bad for my son missing his party tomorrow if I didn't get back tonight with the car. Obviously if I was still really concerned I'd go but they are moving as I'd expect now and I'm worried I jumped the gun phoning them. I'm just on high alert because of the leak but perhaps didn't give it long enough.

Just go in, you won’t sleep well. It’s more important than a child’s party.

Your baby’s safety is more important than a party

They'll call you soon enough anyway if you called them in the first place then don't turn up, so you'll seem better if you're the ones to ring them. They can't force you to come in but they can free up your appointment slot for someone else.

Phone them back and say that they’ve woken up.

I suspect they’ll tell you to stay home, but as you’re already high risk they might want to check you over. And if they do, it’s probably sensible to prioritise that.

Even if you go there tonight they’ll only keep you if it’s serious.

I'd still go due to the leak. Could someone come over and look after the 3 year old, husband come with you and then he drive home again once he's below the limit again (if he's only had one drink rather than if he's had several).

Probably not going to be popular but if you're an hour away from hospital and high risk with a leak wtf is he doing drinking?

Just go. You'd never be able to forgive your self if there was a problem. Your babies life is more important than a party.

Give them a call - but I’d prepare yourself to have to go in. I had to, and I was low risk. With a leak, they will almost certainly want to make sure everything is okay.

Is there any other options for driving you? If not, and your partner has already drank, he hasn’t left you with many options. Please get checked out. Hopefully it’ll all work out so that your son still gets to his party, but this is more important in the long run. They won’t keep you in for no reason; you’ll hopefully be home later.

Also why is your husband drinking too much to be able to drive if your pregnancy is high risk and you’ve got a leak?

Probs give them a call at least. Your baby is more important than a party. Could your dh not take him a taxi if necessary?

Yes I get that and if they still weren't moving I would obviously already be on the way but they have woken up and are doing there usual somersaults in there so I'm not concerned enough to do an over hour drive I don't feel like I've actually got the energy in me to do

Can't someone else take the 3yo to party?

I would get checked out. Rest and party can be dealt with tomorrow

I would call them, it will look bad if you just don't turn up, most likely they'll tell you to just monitor and call back if your worried again

I'd ring the hospital, tell them baby is moving again and that you're no longer worried, and see what they say. If they're happy thay there's no longer a worry then stay at home, but if they still want you to go in then I'd follow their advice. They'll have had similar situations before and will be best placed to advise you.

Of course you don't feel like it, thats why your DH shouldn't be drinking so that he can drive you if he needs to. You're heavily pregnant at high risk due to leaking. What if your leak suddenly got much worse? I'd understand if you were in a city with a hospital 10 mins away and can jump in a taxi but not over an hour.

Please do go in, if the delay in movement was a sign that something is starting to go wrong you wouldn't forgive yourself.

Ring them and ask what to do. If they want you to come in take the car seat out of the car and if you're not back in time for the party DH can get a lift or a taxi.

Stop asking strangers on the internet and ring the midwives? They cant force you to go in. Im sure they will be more concerned if you just dont turn up.

If the reduced movements were unusual for your pregnancy, you should still go in even if baby is moving more now.