So so scared something is going to go wrong

[theothersider]

I'm 35 weeks, I've had 2 week long hospitalisations for threatened pre term labour one in my second trimester and one in my third. I've lost some but not all of my waters and they want to induce me at 37 weeks. I'm just so scared. I want this baby out, I know it's still too early but I am petrified of getting this far and something going wrong now and having to go home empty handed again. I'd rather have my baby now and him get the care he needs in hospital than my body silently fail him and take him away from me. I just can't relax, I wake up every half hour panicking about movements in the night, I worry about every little twinge or quiet period. I just want him here. Am I being insane? I can't ask them to get him out sooner, can I? I just can't lose him

Hi OP. Unless there's a valid medical/obstetric reason for a pre-term induction, it won't be offered, I'm afraid.

It's much safer to keep babies inside their mothers for as long as possible. At 35 weeks your baby will probably end up in SCBU and could face problems such as jaundice and breathing difficulties, to name just two.

I understand that you're anxious but try not to catastrophize. You're not having reduced movements, are you?

When I had DS my waters broke before labour started. Two weeks before it started, actually. The longer DS remained inside me, the safer he was.

I'm sure you're being monitored regularly. Is there any particular reason why you think your baby would be safer born prematurely?

Hope all goes OK op x

I lost my last baby at 18 weeks. I just can't fathom the thought of coming home from the hospital empty handed again. Everything is here waiting for him and I just don't trust my body to hold on. Weirdly I felt more relaxed earlier on but now I'm at a point I know he'd largely be ok with no long term issues I just want him out before it's too late and he's gone

I can understand your fear and anxiety. My first son was 6 days over due and I came home empty handed:( I've had 2 sons since and honestly nothing calmed me down during those pregnancies. And my youngest was very poorly and brought out 20 days early. I had months of being told he was high risk to not make it. And the specialist couldn't decide when was the right time to induce me. Its alot of stress on a parent, especially when you are the one carrying. But try and clear your mind. 2 weeks. You have 2 weeks to go and you will have your little baby in your arms. I would honestly talk to your midwife/gp about the way you are feeling. They can offer help. This level of anxiety can ruin the enjoyment of pregnancy. Speaking from my own experience. Sending u and your little one huge hugs. You can do this xx