Not sure what to think

[ShoeBun77]

I don't really know why I'm posting on here if I'm honest but I have not been TTC for some time now. My partner and I tried a couple of years ago and I had a spell of chemical pregnancies so we stopped. I've just turned 45 so I put it down to my age and we moved on. We have one child each from previous relationships, we bought a new house together last year so pregnancy is most definitely not on my mind.

But for some reason this month I felt different so I went into Boots today and bought a FRER. This is the result??

Period not due until Saturday I think, I've no clue when I ovulated or anything and we only DTD once this month due to a family bereavement.

I'm slightly flipping out but realistically I think this will end in another chemical as its so early and because I'm so b**y old!!!

Oh I’m sorry, that sounds tough. Have a chat with your partner about it, stay realistic, and think about what you both want. There’s no shame in deciding not to want something after you’ve wanted something before. If you decide you want to see how things play out, take Vit D and folic (double strength), just in case things progress how you want them to. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I think it's good to be realistic, but as the midwife said to me at last MMC it's a matter of catching a good egg the older we are and that increases the risk. I had a 3 chemicals before my daughter in 2009-10 at 31 and now I'm 44 and about 7 weeks, so just waiting to see if / how things progress. I know I'll be upset if it doesn't, but probably not as much as last time in September as it really lowered my expectations. We'd probably keep trying though over the next 6 months while I can still conceive easily. Make sure you are taking prenatal and folic acid or methylfolate. Your hCG is pretty high judging by that test line darkness so I'd think you are 6-7wks plus but they'll date from start of last period before scanning.

Or actually if your period is not due yet, that looks like very healthy hCG.

Goodness that's a mind-melt, @ShoeBun77!

You and your partner probably need time to think it through and talk it over.

Might you consider a private early scan in a couple of weeks (if it does progress and it isn't a chemical pregnancy) to see if that crystallises how you feel about it? You may feel flutterings of excitement if they find a heartbeat and tell you it's viable; or you may be clearer by then that it's no longer what you want and give you the certainty to make the decision to end the pregnancy.

Good luck whatever you decide . . . and by the way, I'm pregnant with my second at age 43!

Ah sorry, I can't see the key so it's a faint positive. Was reading it upside down! Sorry!🙄

Thank you all for your advice and words of wisdom. I didnt think this would be a situation I'd find myself in going into a New year if I'm honest, I was more focused on cleaning and redecorating and booking a family holiday to look forward to. I only tested as I've been having lots of weird twingy/pulling pains low in my belly!

I think all I can do now is wait until the weekend and see if period arrives and if it doesn't, test again and see what it says.

I've not told my OH yet, obviously I will if by the weekend I've no period and a stronger line on a test, as he's dealing with his Father's death and funeral looming next week so he's got enough on his mind.

Wish me luck!!!

Just to update the thread and because I haven't told anyone else and need to tell the "universe" I suppose, it's been a funny week.

I've done another couple of tests after the 1st one and there's still a line there. Period due tomorrow, I think, with being ill with flu at the beginning of the month, I didnt mark it down like I normally do. It doesn't look much darker though so maybe this is another chemical amd I'm panicking over nothing.

Still freaking out and very unsure what to do, though I do have a phone call with my GP on Tuesday to talk it through and maybe ask for bloods, assuming the tests are still positive by then. My partners Father's funeral is next week so I've decided not to mention anything until afterwards, I figured a week doesn't really make much difference, though it is difficult worrying on my own!

I actually think the line progression is quite good x

That line progression looks good! Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼💗

Still unsure what to think today, but this being in limbo is awful. If there's still a line next weekend I'll have to talk with OH, but think I'm just in denial tbh 😭

They're definitely progressing. Have you tried a digital?

I've ordered one from Amazon which is coming later, but this wasn't planned and I'm 45 so it's all a bit of a mess. Thanks for replying

Strong progression there, @ShoeBun77 - have you started to figure out how you feel about it?

Not really no, because ive not told anyone and I've not talked it through. I've honestly been expecting every day the test line to be lighter, so I've avoided thinking about it. When I do it's just blind panic and I feel sick. We've already got 2 kids from previous relationships, 12 and 9, both are Autistic and my son in particular wouldn't cope. There's far more reasons not to continue with the pregnancy in honesty, especially when I think about the odds of a chromosomal abnormality etc, but I still think it'll end up being a chemical or miscarriage because of my age, so rightly or wrongly at this stage I'm pushing it to the back of my mind