Extreme paranoia early pregnancy

[Mrwilsonswife]

Hi guys, I posted mid October when I believed I was having an early miscarriage (I was just under 5 weeks). Well I was but on news years Eve I found out I’m pregnant again and I feel no excitement just so so scared. Everytime I go to the bathroom I’m afraid to see blood, I go back to work tomorrow after my Christmas break and I’m so anxious about that because I was in work when I misscarried. I’m making myself sick with worry, I haven’t thought of anything else. I can’t even bring myself to call and book appointments because last time I did it I miscarried the next day. No idea what to do😭

I can relate so much to this. Unfortunately I can’t offer any advice just take one day at a time . I’m 31wks now and it’s been a journey things got so bad that my midwife had to refer me to the mental health team and I see a psychologist every week. I still feel intense anxiety especially over my babies movements. Sometimes all I can think about is that I’m going to lose him, I can’t focus on anything else. I can’t tell you how many times Iv gone to hospital and the EPU and I never feel relieved. I constantly go to the toilet to check that I’m not bleeding, I won’t go swimming cause Iast time I did I had a miscarriage. Its been hard and I was the same, I didn’t want to book appointment cause it broke my heart to cancel them. It felt impossible to go to work but hopefully it will take your mind off things a bit. Just remember whatever happens you will get through it. Try and think positive although I know how hard it is xx

Hi @Mrwilsonswife no advice really just a friendly virtual hug from someone in a similar boat. I had an early miscarriage/CP at just under 5 weeks in October then the same again in November and am now pregnant again (6+5) and constantly on knicker watch when I go to the toilet and worried I might lose this one too.

I just keep telling myself that today I’m pregnant and take it day by day but it’s so hard to feel excited and really takes the shine from what should be a exciting time

In other countries sometimes doctors would take blood tests in early pregnancy to check progesterone levels and prescribe progesterone if needed. Low progesterone could be a cause of miscarriage. However there might be other reasons out of our control for example when the dna exchange happened and embryo was created something went wrong and a natural mechanism of our bodies was triggered to stop that pregnancy from going forward. I don't know you but it helped me going for private scans early on and I would do that blood test to know more about what's going on and hopefully all the tests would show that at this point everything is going well. Try to take one day at a time and think that at present right now everything is going well.

Thank you guys, I feel like nothings putting my mind at ease at all. Think I’m still in a bit of shock with how quickly the miscarriage happened, I was absolutely fine having lunch with some patients when I went to the bathroom I was soaked and that was that, it was over and done with so quickly I just couldn’t grasp how one minute I was pregnant and the next I wasn’t. My husbands being very supportive but I tend to keep most things to myself. I’m booking a private scan but it isn’t until the 15th January so the wait is excruciating. Just want everything to be okay x

I relate to this so much! I had an MC at 10 weeks in April and fell pregnant the month later. I’m now 34 weeks.

To say it’s been tough is an understatement but you WILL get through it!

I highly recommend Zoe Clark-Coates’ book ‘Pregnancy After Loss’. I found it to be a real comfort and support, especially in the early stages.

My only advice (although I’m terrible at taking it myself!) is to relax as much as is humanly possible and trust that all will be well.

I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months! Xx

I haven’t experienced a mc but my first pregnancy was ivf after years of trying. I was so sure that it wouldn’t work out, the anxiety was crippling at times. I found a few ways to help me cope which may be useful.

Try to get as much sleep as possible. I know it is hard when you are worrying but lack of sleep makes it worse. I was in bed by 7/8pm most nights in the first trimester.

Meditation helped me feel calmer when I was overwhelmed. I used the Headspace app each evening for 10/20 mins.

Find a good series you can binge watch to distract you. I watched all seasons of The Gilmore Girls when I was pregnant. I also read a LOT. I read nearly 50 books during my pregnancy. It was my escape.