Am I being unreasonable

12 replies

Augustmama9 · 03/01/2023 19:10

I was dating a guy and I fell pregnant quickly (big shock) although it was not planned I accepted it and looked forward to being a mum again. When I broke the news to the father he doubted me and both him and his sister questioned my dates ect even tho I had only been with him and all dates were correct. I booked an early pregnancy scan to which I invited both them too so they could ask the doctor themselves. They both refused to come and I had heard nothing from him again. I texted him a few times begging to have a conversation but nothing.

that was very hard but with the support of family and friends I got through it. Unfortunately tho at my 12 week scan in December my mum and me were told that my baby stopped growing at 10 weeks and I have been absolutely devastated since and have been having counselling. In the past 2 weeks this guy has popped up on messenger ( he asked for my number so it was clearly deleted or blocked). I know it’s wrong and I should tell him straight away but I still haven’t accepted it myself and even writing it now is hard.

I completely understand that I need to say something and I’m probably being selfish not replying to him but it’s painful. Could I have some advice on how to handle this.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 03/01/2023 19:12

You never have to speak to him again if you don’t want to. Just block him. I’m sorry for what you’ve been through.

Highlyflavouredgravy · 03/01/2023 19:13

You owe him absolutely nothing. Block him snd move on.

SingingSands · 03/01/2023 19:15

Im really sorry for your loss

I'd block him. He will bring you neither peace of mind nor anything positive.

Let your family give you the love and support you need and look to the future without this man in your life.

Frazzled2207 · 03/01/2023 19:16

Sorry for your loss
just block him and try and forget about him.

PissedAgain · 03/01/2023 19:17

I'm going to go against the grain with this. I'd tell him and then block him.

thaisweetchill · 03/01/2023 19:21

Even though he has been a knob I think you should tell him then block him. He does have a right to know. Or get a friend to do it?

Laurakiaora · 03/01/2023 19:22

You have no obligation to tell him. You tried to communicate and involve him and he chose to ignore and block you. He's removed any right he had to anything to do with the pregnancy. Fuck him.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you can take the time you need to grieve and heal.

Unicorn717 · 03/01/2023 19:22

I'd probably tell him what happened and then just block him. Yes he's been a knob but at least if he knows what's happened, he will never have a reason to speak to you again.

K37529 · 03/01/2023 19:24

Sorry for your loss ❤️ I would tell him because if you don't he may just keep trying to contact you. I would also say you don't want anymore to do with him then block him

SugarplumFairyyy · 03/01/2023 19:25

He washed his hands of you and your baby so you owe the selfish prick nothing.
In fact you should ignore him and grieve. Bless you. I'm very sorry for your loss ❤

Letitrainletitrainletitrain · 03/01/2023 19:26

Do you have someone, like your mum, who would be able to tell him on your behalf if you don't feel up to it

On one hand I don't think you owe him anything, on the other hand it's probably better to get it out of the way so he doesn't keep trying to contact you

rwalker · 03/01/2023 19:30

treading extremely carefully
Tell him and block
you say very early I presuming weeks into relationship I’m guessing weeks
tbh sounds like he’ll keep popping you need to tell him

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