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Scared, unexpected pregnancy, older dad, feeling alone

4 replies

jsq · 03/01/2023 16:48

Im hoping someone can point me in the right direction of where to find some support.

I just found out that I’m pregnant. I’m 30, but it’s totally unexpected - I’m on the pill and I’ve been seeing a guy twice my age (he’s 60)!!!!

none of my friends or family know I’ve even been seeing him as I know they’d judge the age gap - I probably would as well if it wasn’t happening to me! So I can’t talk to anyone right now.

im freaking out so much. He has a daughter from a previous marriage and small grandkids (!!!) I don’t have any kids.

I told him I missed my period and he was the one to encourage me to take a test - so he knows and he was weirdly so calm about it! He’s fit and in good health. I cried and told him I can’t have his baby and he said he wants to support me in whatever I decide but that good health is never guaranteed even if he was in his 30s so if it’s just his age that I’m concerned about then I shouldn’t be basically. But I am! I really really like him and I’ve always wanted kids but I genuinely didn’t think this would happen. I’ve never missed a pill!!!

i just feel so alone and scared. And in a way the fact he’s being so positive and good about it all only makes me feel more alone, because he’s not seeing any of the scary things that I am, if they makes sense?

anyway, I just had to get that out of my system to someone. If someone can give me some suggestions on what to do next or who to speak to that would be amazing. I know I need to speak to my GP but I’m just so scared. Sorry!

OP posts:
Dogmum11 · 03/01/2023 19:37

What are you scared about OP?

do you need to speak to your GP for a termination?

LaLuz7 · 03/01/2023 19:48

How long have you been seeing eachother and how committed are you?

CMG92 · 03/01/2023 21:25

If you like him as much as you have said that’s all that matters, I’m sure your family will support whatever decision you make, your an adult and can’t help who you like! Good luck x

Katela18 · 04/01/2023 08:50

Hi OP.

Didn't want to read and run. I fell pregnant on the pill so understand its a shock and feels scary.

Do you know roughly how far along you'd be?
If its still fairly early, just take some time to process, let the dust settle and then weigh up what you'd like to do. It sounds like he will support you whatever you decide, so at least that's one less thing to worry about. You don't need to figure it all out immediately, let it sink in and then see how you feel.

All the best x

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