Possible TW mention of termination and loss
hi all so some backstory (sorry if it’s long)
first baby was sadly a loss in 2020 at 26 weeks, I had my second child in 2021 was planned and then got pregnant on the pill two months later we wanted to wait a year at the time but then I had my girl as we wanted another baby anyway in may 2022 both my living children were c sections.
been on the pill and breastfeeding and found out I was pregnant two days ago and i am in shock as this has happened again, did not get pregnant for 9 years with true implant but either way..
here’s the issue and why I need advice so I eventually do want 3 kids but I don’t want 3 very young kids I manage to raise my two very well considering I struggle with mental health and have a lack of help at home my partner said after our last he is unsure if he does want another baby but maybe in 4/5 years time …
we have also been having some relationship issues such as not being on the same team, lack of sleep issues and having to move house a lot in fact we might have to move again in the next two months.
how do I tell him? I feel so scared to tell him incase it really upsets him.. we also said if I got pregnant soon because it’s risky and the toll it’s taken on my body we will get an abortion now I support it but never liked the idea of having to get one
I wanted to focus on my career as my current kids get older, I have poor mental health as it is and I’m not sure if my body could handle it and another major surgery
I feel so lost
just some guidance or ideas of what I can do or support I can get would be amazing Thankyou and advice on how to tell my partner