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OrcaBlondie · 31/12/2022 12:12

Anyone else fed up with comments being made about their bump? I’m 35w and have had so many comments from friends, family and colleagues saying I don’t look like my due date is only 5 weeks away! I can’t actually believe how many people have said it on separate occasions and similar things throughout my pregnancy. So basically they think I just look fat still (I am a size 16/18). It is really starting to get to me and make me even more self conscious (which had kind of improved in pregnancy as I had a reason to have a bigger belly rather than it just being fat!) 😔 I have only put on 6lbs during pregnancy so maybe that is why 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I just don’t understand why people think making comments is acceptable. I never ever would, no matter what I was thinking. I think I actually have quite a nice and obvious baby bump so I don’t really get it! It isn’t massive but I have quite wide hips so I think it is more spread out rather than sticking out, and it doesn’t bother me at all but the comments do.

Also had work colleague ask me this week (infront of an office full of people) ‘show us your bump’. I was actually mortified. Also had another colleague walk up to me whilst she was smoking outside and touch my bump (without asking)! Disgusting. The same colleague said a few weeks ago ‘do you even have a bump, I can’t see it’ infront of others.

I can’t wait to not be pregnant just so the comments and glances at my belly/bump stop!!

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overthinkersanonnymus · 31/12/2022 14:26

I think a lot of people (including me) are fascinated with pregnancy and get excited about talking to a mum to be about their bump etc. not that this excuses smoking randomers touching your body though!

And I think that because we see so many different shapes and sizes of bumps, people are just curious. I for one am guilty of talking about bump sizes with mums to be so I'll probably stop doing that now as I didn't realize people may get upset

I was in awe of how tiny and perfect my SIL bump was and always mentioned it. Maybe I need to apologize 😐

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OrcaBlondie · 31/12/2022 14:58

overthinkersanonnymus · 31/12/2022 14:26

I think a lot of people (including me) are fascinated with pregnancy and get excited about talking to a mum to be about their bump etc. not that this excuses smoking randomers touching your body though!

And I think that because we see so many different shapes and sizes of bumps, people are just curious. I for one am guilty of talking about bump sizes with mums to be so I'll probably stop doing that now as I didn't realize people may get upset

I was in awe of how tiny and perfect my SIL bump was and always mentioned it. Maybe I need to apologize 😐

I don’t think there is anything wrong with complimenting someone’s bump, but I don’t take what people have been saying to me as a compliment at all and instead basically saying I still just look fat lol

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RambamThankyouMam · 31/12/2022 17:30

It's just something to say. Nobody genuinely cares.

Autumn231 · 31/12/2022 18:22

I’m only 23 weeks but already getting fed up of bump comments. I was at a party the other day and I had some people comment on what a lovely neat bump I had and some people comment on how big I am. In no other circumstance would you get people commenting on your body like that, drives me mad!

Kathryn91 · 31/12/2022 18:29

I’m with you on this one!
Im 34weeks but have had extra fluid, so I’m a lot bigger.
Alot of people when I say when I’m due have said ‘oh thought it was in a few days’
I guess some people just don’t know how insensitive it sounds.
x

Boopboopboo · 31/12/2022 19:29

I got so many comments earlier this year saying have you not had that baby yet etc. It made me want to work from home. I'm quite petite so my baby went straight out. A lot of people are well meaning but even if each person only comments once a week you end up dealing with 5 comments a day or something. Sorry, I have no advice but you have my sympathy. I'm sure you look great and people are just interested and don't think before they speak. Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly and you can avoid people

madeleine85 · 02/01/2023 04:09

I had a random man on the street play a guessing game of my due date. It was very well intentioned, but I had an iugr baby and had just come from another appointment being told he was 1% on the growth scale (baby was ok in the end). I almost lost it at the person who was genuinely being nice, albeit a bit odd. People just need to stop commenting on bumps full stop. Sending hugs, block out that noise from others and focus on you and your little one.

Marmitepot · 02/01/2023 04:15

I had the opposite,people telling me how massive I was (to be fair my bump was huge).

The variations of bump size vary so much and like others have said,people like to talk about it.

Monica2507 · 02/01/2023 04:15

I hated this too. It's like no one knew what to say to me so just said something about my bump to start a conversation. I had::
Are you sure it's not twins?!
You're looking nice and round now.
You have such a neat bump!
Ooh I can tell you are pregnant now!

Summer2424 · 02/01/2023 04:43

Hi @OrcaBlondie i totally get you, i got comments too, i had alot of water retention massive legs and ankles got comments about that too.
I'm the same i would never make comments about someones bump. 🙄

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