Calm 2nd child??

[JoKB]

Hello!

I have a 3.5 year old son and he is just darling, sweet and gentle and while he obviously has his moments of meltdowns, is a very calm child!

after losing 2 pregnancies and 2 years of infertility, I am expecting a second son, who I can’t wait to meet. However, I struggled that I wasn’t having a girl that I had a dreamed of, especially with my sister just having a girl, and I know sex doesn’t define a child, but I’ve been told over and over that second will be crazy after the first being so chilled- has anyone have 2 (boys?!) that were similar and gentle/careful etc rather than one calm and the other crazy 😂

My DD (9) was such a chilled, laid back baby. Didn’t walk until 16 months! Still quite chilled although slightly sassy at times…..

DS (2) - whirlwind!!! Walking at 9 months and just constantly on the go! Very cheeky!

We are going to try for DC3 this year, so it’s 50/50 on what their temperament will be 🤣

Congratulations OP and enjoy 😊

My DD (almost 3 years old) is a tornado, although very bright and a delight when well behaved. Don't remember her being particularly difficult as a baby tbh.

My DS (4 Months old) also quite chill but can go from 0 to 60 very quickly.

My first child and the reason why he's remained an only child for 3.5 years is that he is a fire cracker, a emotional rollercoaster and just wild. The moment he gets up and until he sleep is chaotic. He used to bolt although better now and doesn't but still touches everything, always on the go. He has tired the shit out of me. We are thinking of a second one and have been wondering whether the second child will be the same or if he turns out calm, ds will somehow spoil him too hence why I'm going to wait another year until I start trying again and hoping ds will emotionally mature a bit by then. My dh's family all have had very wild children first and the second ones were much calmer so I'm hoping since ds is exactly like DH and his family, maybe I'm might have a calmer second one.

DS2 was the quietest easiest baby on the planet. DS1 a bloody nightmare and latest DD easy.

Hi OP! Just following up on this. I’m in the same situation myself and was curious as to what your second child is like? 😀

Came to update. My hurricane child is still a hurricane possibly adhd and i went on to have a second one and my god she is unbelievably so different. I'm enjoying motherhood more, she's calm, she's reasonable lol and she's only 11 weeks old. She's so so different. Of course I don't know what will happen in the future but she is less work than my ds was at that age just feels like a dream child. My ds1 is still very hard work and draining but i love him to bits.

I'll update too... Ds1 is 4 in a few weeks and still very sweet, chilled and laid back! He was always happy to play in the sandpit for hours or play on the floor with kitchen spoons. He was too hesitant to climb, never went for wires or plugs.
His little brother meanwhile is 17 months old and he is a firecracker 🤣 he climbs EVERYTHING. Is ridiculously strong and pushes around furniture, looks you dead in the eye while he goes for that wire 😅he's a wee wild one but he is so funny, cheeky and very loving. Really couldn't imagine our family without him. Ds1 is a great big brother and DS2 adores him. So yes...very different temperaments! But DS2 is not unmanageable at all. He loves a sit in the buggy and a walk whilst you discuss all the things he can see, he needs kisses and cuddles a lot more than his brother, he hugs the neighbours kids' when he sees them, he can get angrier than his brother ever used to but it doesn't last long. So although different, he's not difficult

I'll update too.

DS 2yr3mo now, and is still extremely strong willed. As with PP will look you in the eye as he does what does what you've just told him not to do. He was definitely a precocious tantrumer. He started at 9 months and basically tantrumed constantly until about 18 months (funnily enough when he learned to walk). Got his terrible twos out of the way early you might say, but while they've lessened in frequency, he still has them. However, for the most part he is extremely sweet. He gives amazing hugs and is very affectionate. He loves to share, and will randomly give me one of his sweets without prompting. His older (but not much bigger sister) often comes off worse in their squabbles, but they're starting to play more together and it's lovely seeing that relationship develop.

@JoKB hi there! In the same situation as you, and I wondered how your second child turned out?