Is this normal? 7 weeks and feeling rubbish!

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So I'm about 7 weeks pregnant with our second child. Ds1 is 2.

We've talked about having a second child since having DS and it's always been something we've wanted. I've had a couple of early miscarriages (one before DS, and a chemical just after)...and now I'm pregnant again.

As much as I want this child, I'm just finding myself feeling really miserable. I'm very tired all the time, sick, very dizzy, DS is acting up all of a sudden and I'm finding it draining, and I can't stop thinking about how on earth I'm going to deal with my workload (husband and I also run a business).

I'm blessed in so many ways, and yet I feel miserable, and daunted so much of the time. I don't know who to talk to about it and I feel a bit like I should just be glowing with pregnancy joy.

So thought I'd ask here. Has anyone felt the same? Is there anything I can do to improve it?

Totally normal!

I felt the same when I conceived DS2 eventhough he was planned. DS1 was 12 months old and I had just returned to work after maternity leave (I ran a business with a partner (business partner).

I saw the 2 lines on the test, instantly felt elated and then suddenly I wasn't so sure it was a good idea. I was really ill in my first trimester with DS1 and worried how I'd cope with a 1 year old and work if I were to feel the same again. Then I worried how I'd cope with 2 under 2 when the baby was born. It was all pretty anxiety inducing which overshadowed my excitement a bit to be honest.

My DC are 2.5 and 9 months now and it's nowhere near as bad as I'd feared. Don't get me wrong, it's HARD and I couldn't do it without DH or the support of my parents. I did have to give up work though which wad a big wrench as I'd worked hard, built the business up from scratch and had a successful 6 years but it just didn't make sense financially for me to pay for childcare for 2 kids, I'd have effectively been paying to work.

It's early days, you've only just found out you're expecting again so are bound to be daunted. Give yourself time. Once the first trimester is over and you start to feel better physically, you'll likely feel better/stronger mentally too.

It'll all work out in the end, it always does!

Thank you so much! This has really helped me tonight. I'm feeling really all over the place and hearing that you felt the same and it's all turned out well really has given me some hope.

I'm sorry to hear you had to give up work though, I bet that was very hard. I'm lucky in that I'm just the supporting role in my husband's business (we're due to complete on buying the company end of jan) and so I do invoicing, accounts, paying suppliers etc. I think in time I'll be able to work more remotely and realistically I only do 16 hours a week really....But still very nervous about how I'm gonna pay people immediately after giving birth 🤦‍♀️🙈

I also have a hobby business as a jeweller. I hope one day when the kids are older it will be more than a hobby business. It pays for itself, but that's about it. But like you, I've accepted that I won't be able to focus on that much, especially in 2023. Its hard, but I've told myself even if I only make one piece of jewellery every 2 months, that's better than stopping completely.

You're right, I guess it is early days yet so it's no wonder the overwhelm has hit in a massive way. But, your comment has given me some hope. Thank you 😊

I'm glad it's made you feel a bit better 😊 your jewellery making might have to go on the back burner for a few months but you'll definitely be able to pick it up again (if you can stay awake long enough) lol.

Congratulations by the way! Exciting times ahead 🤩