With my last pregnancy I had some issues with a consultant.
id had previous complications with my first two pregnancies and was advised it may be better not to have any more but nobody could give me specific risks and my gynae dr said actually it wasn’t that bad so was up to me but that I’d need some initial checks as soon as pregnant etc
I was under the EPU for a while and had scans weekly till 12 weeks then had my booking appt and 12 w scan and bloods but then had to see the consultant who tried to encourage not continuing with the pregnancy. When I said I was continuing she said she would like me to agree to tubal ligation at birth and I said no she then said she would be placing a coil at the time of birth , again I said no. She went on to tell me worst case scenario and ‘are you prepared for that ? I want you to consider is it better to terminate now rather than go through a late loss’ She ruined the happy occasion of my 12 w scan even the registrar who was present when the doctor left the room said to me ‘are you ok ? I wasn’t expecting that it was very difficult wasn’t it ?’ It wasn’t even done sensitively by the consultant she was cold and brutal and insensitive
Everything was fine. This dr will be my consultant again and I’m thinking ahead - will I be able to refuse and ask to have a different consultant ? There’s no option of a different hospital and I just don’t want to end up with this particular doctor involved in my care I don’t even want to speak to her ! She was horrible! It’s my body and I’m perfectly capable of making a decision and fully aware of the risks.