Your positive stories of having two+ boys

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I'm having my second little boy and final baby. I've had a lot of negative responses to telling people the gender. My dad went on at length about how he was disappointed for us because having two boys is such a nightmare (they'll be loud and boisterous and fight with each other) and a girl would have been so much easier. Most other people have said that now I'll need to have a third (I won't be) or some other form of commiseration. Lots of comments about how boys grow up and leave you and basically don't give a shit about you as an adult.

Please can I hear your positive stories of having two or more boys? As little ones or teenagers or adult children. Mine will have a 3 year age gap.

Got four sons ranging from 15yo to 5yo. They are interesting and lots of fun to raise. I enjoy having four children and would have been delighted with any combination as it's more down to personality rather than male/female.

Congratulations OP. It will all work out well. You'll see😊

It’s all bollocks. Ignore the narrow minded stereotyping idiots.

I used to get regular unsolicited lectures about how hard little boys were, girls were so much easier, but I’d be grateful in the teenage years cos girls get bitchy and manipulative and I’d have easy boys.

both my children are girls- I just always dressed them in practical clothing - no pink=boy. The reactions I’d get when I said i’m sure she’ll be fine, outright disbelief to actual challenges on my “mistake”.

You get used to shouting 'NO BALLS IN THE HOUSE!' a lot 😁

I do this. A lot. Mine are girls.

like I said. All bollocks. Depends on personality, and how you socialise your children. Encourage “boy” stereotypes and behaviour and that’s what you’ll get.

OP I have 3 boys. Our 3rd baby was a total surprise as we were done at 2 kids but we all adore him. However other peoples attitudes were nothing short of disgusting in some cases (particularly DH family who only really value girls and actively favour them which dh despises). My own family were delighted. The reality is my 3 boys are very close.All very different natured though but that would be true if you had girls too I imagine.

The oldest (age 11) is strong willed and head strong and confident. He loves Lego, history, music and building. He does well at school and has a nice small group of friends (girls and boys) but likes his own space and time. He behaves generally well now but did cause us some issues when he was younger behaviour wise.

The middle one age 6 loves arts, crafts, playdough, learning, pink, soft toys and clothes. He is very popular and has lots of friends. He excels in school and often come homes with awards. He is well behaved. Last week him and his friend got chased and hit by a bunch of little girls in school. A few weeks before that a little girl slapped him and a few other boys repeatedly at soft play in the face. Girls have the capability to hit the same as boys if nobody teaches them that hitting is unacceptable.

The youngest is 3.5 years old and has similar interests to the 6 year old. He is still in nursery and they say he is doing very well and sociable. He also behaves well.

The younger 2 are very close and kiss and hug each other every day when they see each other at school at lunchtime. The oldest class goes into the school nursery once a week to read to the little ones. He choses to read to his little brother.

Life is busy but that's because I have 3 kids regardless of the sex of the children it would be busy. I get constant hugs, kisses and told I love you mummy loads. From what I have seen of boys who are "only son's tills they take a wife" it's often because there mother has chosen to favour there daughters over there son's so there relationship with there sons suffer massively due to this. Focus on having a healthy and loving relationship with your sons and ignore others nasty comments. My best friend has adult sons and daughters. She has a wonderful relationship with all them and they all adore her.

DH is one of two boys (30 and 26). They are both total mummy’s boys even as grown ups. No defecting to the DIL family here!

I have four boys, who were easier than their sister as kids, and all of whom are loving, caring adults now. All four daughters-in-law are delightful, and I love them all. Ignore the stereotypes and the endless whinging about in-laws on MN, and focus on raising nice kids who are likely to choose nice life-partners.

Congrats OP! Im sorry to hear people are being negative about your pregnancy.

I am currently pregnant with my second baby who is a boy, my first is a girl. So can’t give you any experiences of raising 2 boys, but I will say that girls are definitely not easy! My daughter is an absolute wild child 😂 and I mean, I joke but she is genuinely out of control at times. I have several friends who have one of each, they have all said the boys were easier. So I think the whole myth that girls are well behaved and calm is BS honestly.

Also, the thing about boys leaving you when they’re older is crap in my opinion. My husband looks after his mum so well, while his sister is awful to her. Of course it comes down to their individual personalities but I think a lot of boys grow up to have great relationships with their mums. Don’t let the negativity get to you! Your second little boy will be awesome 😊 x