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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Partner not interested in sex (or me?)

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pinklemonade18 · 26/12/2022 11:03

My libido has always fluctuated throughout our 10 year relationship. My husband has always been consistent in his desires towards me. He’d even make comments about how he doesn’t think he’d ever say no to having sex with me.

I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant with our first child. This happened earlier than we planned so it’s been a lot to get our heads round but we are both very excited.

I have noticed that my partner has not been very interested in sex for a lot of my pregnancy. He rarely if ever initiates it and often turns down my attempts. I have really struggled with this and have got very emotional about it at times. We’ve had several conversations that haven’t got us anywhere. He has told me he is still attracted to me (despite his behaviours not making me feel this way). And I think he struggles with thinking he might hurt the baby or me. I also think he maybe struggles with how my body looks at the moment which is understandable. But there are other things we can do and he just doesn’t seem interested in any of it.

I am just feeling a frequent state of being undesired, unattractive and rejected and I’m finding it so hard. I’m sure my pregnancy hormones aren’t helping. I am worried he will never be attracted to me again. I still feel loved. But I also feel like he’s a really good person who would never want to walk away from me or his child. So I’m scared he might just feel like he has to stay. I know I might sound irrational but I just feel so rubbish 😭

Has anyone else experienced similar? Any words of advice? Thank you xxx

OP posts:
purpledalmation · 26/12/2022 12:07

Some men do seem to have this odd reaction to pregnancy. I think the only thing to do is talk about it and ask if he can at least show physical affection in other ways.

Annfredandcharles · 20/01/2023 07:31

Hey OP! Mine was exactly the same! We only got intimate 4 times through the pregnancy whereas we were at least weekly before ! Now the baby is here I feel rejected and don’t want to initiate intimacy and he doesn’t 🤦‍♀️ I don’t know how to break the cycle but that’s the problem; it seems unnatural now! Like you, I love my DH but would like this element to be better. Sorry I can’t advise better but definitely worth persisting with conversation x

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