Nearly 37 weeks, feel like I won't get my baby, anxiety??

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So I'm coming up to 37 weeks pregnant, straight forward pregnancy, c section booked in, but the closer I'm getting I feel so anxious, not about the birth but I feel like my baby won't make it and I won't get her?
I've had niggly feelings throughout the pregnancy and made it thus far with no issues, she's kicking away as I'm typing.
Is this normal because I'm so close to the end?

Anyone else?

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My ds was from ivf and I’d had 3 miscarriages before him, I felt exactly the same. Like something was going to go wrong. I felt like it the whole pregnancy, it was draining to be constantly anxious.

(Everything was fine. He’s 9 now!)

I’m currently 37 weeks and I feel exactly the same. I just have this horrible feeling that somethings going to go wrong in these last few days and it’s filling me with anxiety. I’ve had a very straightforward pregnancy and like you baby is kicking away happily.
I have no advice but I just want to let you know you’re not alone in how you feel!

Yes, it’s anxiety talking and considering that you’re about to give birth to a whole new human, it’s normal for you to be feeling this way.

I felt like this too all through my pregnancy and it really spoiled my enjoyment of that time. I just couldn't let myself get excited or look forward to bringing our baby home and all the things we'd do as I just couldn't believe it was going to happen. I found it very difficult having the things we'd bought for him in the house and would often be in tears looking at them with the thought he was never going to get to use them.
He's now 3 weeks and arrived safely after a relatively straightforward labour (although there were several moments that I panicked and thought things were going wrong)
I was referred to the mental health team at my maternity unit at 25 weeks pregnant and they told me these feelings are very common. It's really horrible to experience them though. Hope that magic moment where they put baby in your arms and tell you he's ok will be here before you know it

Also just gone 37wks and feel exactly the same. No real reason for the fear, baby is super active, pregnancy has been relatively straightforward and low risk but I just can’t shake the notion that it could still all go horribly wrong, to the point I can’t actually imagine leaving hospital with a baby. In a way it’s reassuring to know you guys are feeling the same, but I do just wish I could enjoy the next few weeks as I excitedly wait to meet our daughter instead of fearing these are the last few weeks of feeling her presence 😔

It's reassuring to know I'm not alone although wish I wasn't feeling this way, it's taking the joy out of the last couple of weeks.
I've not had these thoughts much but the past week or so they've really crept in and I'm awake in the night worrying.
Just 2 weeks to go!

38.5 here and just had a t

Oops.
38.5 here and just had a total meltdown to my DP about this today. It’s reassuring to know there’s a lot of us in the same boat. Doing everything I can think of to hurry her along - we’re so desperate to be parents already. Good luck OP!

Ivf baby here too after miscarriages and even when giving birth I was convinced he wouldn’t make it and it was all a cruel joke. And then thinking that by thinking that I’d somehow ‘jinxed’ it. If I read a story or a post on here about a loss or something going wrong I was convinced the same would happen and couldn’t calm down until I’d passed that number of weeks.
I kept thinking about everything I’d ever done wrong and how I would lose him because of some twisted karma. It’s all anxiety driven but it’s bloody exhausting.
I wish I had sought some help for it - is that an option for you?

I had these feelings as well. Was so worried that something would go wrong during the birth. Ended up with a c section and everything was fine : )... it did help me to talk about it tho so please keep talking x

@toothiepegs I can relate so much to your post, I’ve felt exactly the same way when I’ve read of other people’s traumatic experiences and have felt unable to relax until I pass that milestone. I had hoped I’d start to calm down once I reached 37wks and full term but now I’m stuck with the fear of giving birth and it all going wrong. Sending positive thoughts to everyone that’s in the same boat. Hopefully all the stress and anxiety will be worth it in a few weeks time.

Is your csection for anxiety too? I think it’s so common to have these feelings. I had that and an even stronger feeling that I just wouldn’t be there to see the ‘after’. Every time I looked at his little clothes I was like ‘yeah cute’ but was convinced I wouldn’t get to put them on him because I wasn’t going to make it. I kept those thoughts in and didn’t tell anyone really. I had a csection for anxiety and it was genuinely the best experience of my whole life. We got married while he was still a baby and the csection was 100 times better than my wedding day! It will all go completely straightforward, painlessly and you’ll get to meet her, don’t worry! If you’re struggling the mindful birth group have a csection hypnobirthing type mini course online for £10. I did it and it helped to just have something to print off and take with me on the day, as well as the audio tracks just so I knew I had that crutch if I started really panicking on the morning. In the end up I didn’t need it and it was so completely fine I just cannot even put it into words! That moment the curtain goes down will be the best of your life, wish I could replay it over and over 🥰 Enjoy it, visualise it happening! Good luck x

Hi guys

Have you had your babies yet? I'm currently 37 weeks and C-Sec is booked for the 19th and am currently feeling the same you all were!! 😩

Just want baby here now safe in my arms 😩

@navigatingmy20s our beautiful DD arrived on Wednesday morning after a long and somewhat traumatic induction process due to concerns over her growth rate. Ended up being 6lbs 8oz at 39wks so would probably have been ok to wait for things to progress naturally in hindsight but that was never going to be a risk I was willing to take.

It sounds glib I know, but try to enjoy those last few weeks of rest, it’s absolutely worth it but I’ve never known tiredness like this!

Very pleased for you @PointyMcguire ☺️💗 it gets easier, I promise! The nights can be long and lonely but they don't last forever, although it feels that way in the moment!

No rest for me I'm afraid, this will be DD number 2 - my toddler is keeping me on my toes that's for sure 😅 the pregnancy insomnia and waking 10 times for a wee is also kicking my butt - definitely don't remember it being this bad the first time round!! 😅😅

Hope you are healing ok 💗

Were they concerned that your DD was too big?

I ask because I'm being monitored every 2 weeks due to concerns over the size of my baby. My scan last week at 31+6 she was estimated at 5.5lbs and it's sucking all of my joy out of anticipating her arrival, I feel. They spoke of induction from 38w.

Oh bless you @navigatingmy20s I don’t know how you 2nd time mummas cope with juggling a toddler alongside the joys of the 3rd trimester.

We’re getting there, I ended up having an episiotomy and lost rather a lot of blood after passing the placenta so it’s definitely taken it’s toll a bit, but I’m feeling like I’m starting to come out the other side now thankfully.

@PointyMcguire it's definitely not a walk in the park and it's only going to get harder once baby is here, I'm very scared 😂😅

Ahhh the joys of childbirth! I had a 3rd degree tear with my first which is why I've opted for the C-Sec this time round - stitching down their is no fun and the thought of having to have an episiotomy to potentially prevent another tear was filling me with terror 😬 Although I know the C-Section is going to be just as hard! 😩

I'm glad you're coming out the other end! The little bundles of joy make it all worth it though, even if they are sleep thief's! 😂😅

@EyeC did u get ur baby? I feel like this now at 26 weeks
dreading the end! Always feel so surreal waiting to meet a little person uv never met before

Hi, thought I would update everyone, my beautiful daughter was born last week.
I'm so much more relaxed now she's here, I just counted the days away until she was safely in my arms.
Still can't believe my luck when I look at her!

Oh how lovely. Congratulations!!

Is this your first pregnancy, OP? Or first that has gone to term? Is there anything fuelling this worry?

Go and have an extra couple of appointments, for peace of mind. Lots of people experience a touch of anxiety in pregnancy, but get yourself checked over and try and enjoy your last few weeks X

Congratulations

Oh sorry, reading fail. Congratulations! Enjoy your precious bundle. Those annoying pregnancy anxieties are long behind you. I blame the pesky pregnancy hormones! 🥰