35+2 second baby sue in Jan!

Emilylwx · 2022-12-19T19:06:47+00:00

Due January 21st, Baby could be coming earlyish due to measuring bigger at my 32 week scan, have a scan this Friday so will find out what they want to do. This is my second baby and since the start of the second trimester I have been NERVOUS & ANXIOUS about baby no2. I keep thinking and wondering will I love this baby as much as my first born?! I know this is common by the sounds of it, just looking for reassurance please 🙏🏻 how did it work for everyone else. It’s just fear if the unknown and adjusting to life as a family of 4. I know everything will fall into place it just seems so daunting right now.

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twoundertwohowscary · 19/12/2022 19:09

How old is DC1? I can tell you right now, you will absolutely love them both equally. Having a second is quite daunting but it's the best thing I have ever done. Xx

twoundertwohowscary · 19/12/2022 19:10

Also DS2 just slotted right in, it does get harder, but you have much less time to dwell on the things you're doing right or wrong x

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Emilylwx · 19/12/2022 19:21

My daughter will be turning 3 beginning of Feb. She is at pre school and will be doing 3 days a week. Sorry bare with me, new to the website and trying to work out how to use it all 😂 I know I will fall in love and soon as baby is born it’s just so hard to imagine isn’t it! Xx

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Pregnantandknackered · 19/12/2022 20:02

Hi, no advice but wanted to say I am in exact same position! Due 24th Jan and have a little girl who turns 3 in Feb. I am sooo nervous, so worried about how DC1 will be and how I’ll manage with 2. I found my daughter a really hard newborn and really struggles with lack of sleep and breastfeeding so that’s really playing on my mind! I keep reading really conflicting threads where people have found 2 absolutely fine or people have really struggled with another newborn so feel unsure about it!

Anna783426 · 19/12/2022 20:15

I'm 8 weeks into life as a family of 4, with my eldest turning 3 end of December so a similar age gap.

You've absolutely got enough love for both of them, I had very similar worries beforehand but the love I feel for them both is a wonderful thing. The baby does just have to fit in, it's very different from our first time round as now like it or not we have to do the nursery run and she has to roll with that. Childcare is a godsend, I'm so glad my eldest is in three days a week - it gives me wonderful quality time with the.baby and gives my eldest time away from being the big sister. The baby spends a lot of time in the sling, which is another godsend. You've got a lot less time to over think things, which I definitely did a lot of with my eldest.

We also are pretty certain we're stopping at two and the feeling of not doing this again is actually really lovely.

The highs are wonderful and the lows are hard. Our eldest regressed on potty training but otherwise is very loving. There are times they will both be crying and you'll feel you're failing both of them. But then there are times you'll all be snuggled up together and it's wonderful. Good luck! X

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Emilylwx · 20/12/2022 21:07

Anna783426 · 19/12/2022 20:15

I'm 8 weeks into life as a family of 4, with my eldest turning 3 end of December so a similar age gap.

You've absolutely got enough love for both of them, I had very similar worries beforehand but the love I feel for them both is a wonderful thing. The baby does just have to fit in, it's very different from our first time round as now like it or not we have to do the nursery run and she has to roll with that. Childcare is a godsend, I'm so glad my eldest is in three days a week - it gives me wonderful quality time with the.baby and gives my eldest time away from being the big sister. The baby spends a lot of time in the sling, which is another godsend. You've got a lot less time to over think things, which I definitely did a lot of with my eldest.

We also are pretty certain we're stopping at two and the feeling of not doing this again is actually really lovely.

The highs are wonderful and the lows are hard. Our eldest regressed on potty training but otherwise is very loving. There are times they will both be crying and you'll feel you're failing both of them. But then there are times you'll all be snuggled up together and it's wonderful. Good luck! X

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Congratulations lovely!

You have made me feel so much better 🥰 we literally sound as if we’re in a similar situation. My daughter will be going to preschool 3 days a week from January and my MIL helps with the eldest too which is perfect. I understand it will be hard to start, everyone transitioning but the closer we are getting now the more excited I am! Also picked up a sling second hand today which I’ve been practicing with I just think it’s going to make things easier when dealing with my 3 year old! We also don’t plan to have anymore after this so maybe that will help me appreciate it all more once baby is here! All the best with you’re little family, merry Christmas xxx

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Emilylwx · 20/12/2022 21:11

Pregnantandknackered · 19/12/2022 20:02

Hi, no advice but wanted to say I am in exact same position! Due 24th Jan and have a little girl who turns 3 in Feb. I am sooo nervous, so worried about how DC1 will be and how I’ll manage with 2. I found my daughter a really hard newborn and really struggles with lack of sleep and breastfeeding so that’s really playing on my mind! I keep reading really conflicting threads where people have found 2 absolutely fine or people have really struggled with another newborn so feel unsure about it!

@Pregnantandknackered congratulations first of all!

my little girl will also be 3 in Feb. Do you have help with childcare at all? Also don’t put pressure on yourself to breastfeed even if you just manage a few days/few weeks! You need to also put you’re needs and mental health first. Happy mummy = happy baby! Do what works for you all. Be kind to yourself and take it easy. We will be absolutely fine ❤️

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