Struggling with Twin News

[AmyB1993]

Found out end of October that I was pregnant and was super excited. I found out a few weeks ago that I am expecting non identical twins and since then I have felt completely numb and nothing but sadness.
I didn’t want twins, I still don’t want twins and the news has honestly shocked me so much. I’ve suffered since 5 weeks with HG and I had to go into hospital on Friday to be put on an IV drip so I’m already really fed up and the news of twins has just made everything 10x worse.
I know it sounds so awful because there are so many people who struggle to get pregnant or can’t get pregnant and I’m beating myself up for feeling the way that I do but I honestly can’t shake the sadness.
it doesn’t help that my husband, and the family that we have told are super excited about it. I just can’t help worry about finances, space, being able to cope, having to give up my job completely as not being able to afford double childcare costs. It’s all too much along with the HG and I just don’t know what to do ☹️ I don’t really know what my point was for posting to be honest, just feel so lost and on my own when no one else around me shares my concerns.

You need to find your local twins group. People will totally understand, I know several people who were horrified when they found out it was 2. I was delighted but yes overwhelmed at how things would be different logistically to what I thought. However I love having twins, ours are almost 6 and like a pp said, the logistics are so much easier with only one school run, one lot of spellings etc.
Also echo calling twinline run by twins trust for support xx

Same for me OP. I have as so upset at having twins. Angry, grieving, terrified, panicking. Almost no excitement or joy or happiness. Had amazing partner thank god. Got a day nanny and went back to work at 4 months. That helped massively.

From say three onwards it's better and easier than singletons. But still full of losses - because it's such a mix of hard and fast, so I was constantly thinking "that's another day done hurrah" while not enjoying the actual time with them as I would have with one. I have a single grandchild now and oh my life how easy she is, and it's made me see objectively just how fucking difficult and exhausting the first years were. But there are benefits, as pp have said. I honestly would rather that I'd had my two as separate babies and for my two being twins was not good for them- as one "outstripped" the other to that ones detriment in self esteem.

Get as much practical support as possible. Therapy helped me. I hope your partner is every bit as hands on as mine. His mantra was "one up, all up" for night feeds god bless him. I breastfed easily which helped hugely for the first few months. Good luck.