Hyperemesis partner not happy

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I'm 7 weeks pregnant with my second and since last week I've been throwing up and had all day nausea. I suffered terribly with hg with my first and ended up in hospital a few times. This time round I've got the added pressure of looking after dd so I've said I'm willing to try anything to get on top of the sickness.
The only thing that helped last time was ondansetron given in hospital but I had a terrible time being prescribed it by my gp, eventually got it at 35 weeks but by that point I was on mat leave and could stay in bed all day so didn't end up taking it.
I found it in the cupboard a few days ago and out of desperation was about to take one. But dh stopped me saying it was too risky, he then hid the tablets. I was so unwell last night I literally begged him for the tablets. He let me have one and I actually got some sleep. Took another one this morning and feeling almost normal!
I understand dh concerns about the risks but at this point it's either a termination of a very much wanted baby or I take the risk and get through this pregnancy. Dh come down this morning in a foul mood saying he's had no sleep. I'm so annoyed at him, if it was the other way round he would be moaning constantly and take anything to get rid of it.
There's no real point to this thread just need to vent/ need some reassurance. HG is truly awful and it took such a lot to even consider having another child. I'm just so annoyed with dh.

He shouldn't be hiding tablets from you.He sounds impatient and unsympathetic imo

Get some more tablets prescribed and hide them. He has no right to keep them from you.

Are the tablets out of date? I'd be really worried about my DH taking out of date medication if I'm honest, probably not to the point of hiding it though.

Hopefully if you get straight onto the GP and they can see it's been prescribed before they'll be quicker to prescribe it?

The risks from ondansetron are tiny. Take them if you need them.

I and many people have taken that regularly in pregnancy. Your dh should not be treating you like a child, of course you’re mad at him!

But dh stopped me saying it was too risky, he then hid the tablets.

Controlling behaviour often starts in pregnancy. Had he ever displayed this before? An adult conversation is what should have happened, yet he has treated you like a child. I'm sorry OP. I would call your GP this morning to get things started for proper prescription too.

What an arse he is, your body is not his property! HG can be life threatening, and even if not, it is miserable, does he bloody understand that?

Get on to your GP as soon as possible. If they prescribed it last time they should be aware that HG usually affects subsequent pregnancies too and be more willing to prescribe it. Otherwise get on to Pregnancy Sickness Support for some advice on alternatives.

Your husband was rude and childish. You need to have a proper conversation with him about it and make sure you're on the same page about this. If you need the medication to function and avoid hospital admission then he shouldn't be denying you this.

I think you need to speak to your GP as they may prefer to prescribe a different antiemetic at this stage of pregnancy. There is a small increased risk of oral clefts following use of ondansetron in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. Try not to worry as the GP may well decide that the benefit of taking ondansetron to control the HG outweighs the very small risk.

You need to speak to your gp and get some meds prescribed. I've been in ondansetron since 8 weeks and I'm now 15 weeks and I've almost stopped needing to take them. They're a live safer

Evening, another one here. I was on daily ondansetron (prescribed for twice daily but I got by) from about week 16 (I was on others prior to this) until the day I gave birth. Absolutely nothing wrong with my baby. Definitely go back to the GP, don't tell DH and maybe have a think about his behaviour/ the relationship going forward

Thanks everyone for the reassuring replies.
Have got my prescription from the gp which was such a relief! Contacted pregnancy support and they sent over all the evidence supporting ondansetron which I forwarded to dh. He has apologised and said he was concerned about the baby (our first was nicu baby and caused a lot of trauma to both of us).
Things are looking up and I'm feeling so much more positive.

Who the fuck did he think he was? My god. 🚩

Pleased you've got the meds sorted. Did he apologise about being in a mood and complaining he had no sleep?

A mother died recently from HG in the UK…this isn’t just sickness which you know OP but it sounds like your partner doesn’t understand this is a high risk condition. As a fellow HG mum sending positive vibes your way!

What the fuck is wrong with him. I was still vomiting while in labour with my successful pregnancies so I completely understand how horrific you feel. I ended up having overnight IV fluids three times a week just to stay somewhat hydrated.

Your husband owes you a massive apology.

Then the answer would have been "what can I do to help" and doing some research, helping you contact medical support. Not making a unilateral decisions to withhold your meds.

What happens next time you are vulnerable and in need of something and he decides he knows better? Plenty of people are very ignorant about HG, but your DH has watched you go through this before and you should be able to count on his support.

Appreciate you are not up to it just now but this is a conversation you need to have with him when better - not that he was concerned but that he used his position of power to take a decision away from you. He needs to understand why this is fundamentally wrong so that he doesn't default to this another time.

How dare he tell you what medication you can take? Does he try to control what you eat as well?

FFS, it's not controlling behaviour. It's concern for his partner and unborn child.

Why does everyone jump to men being 'controlling' on here?!

Who the fuck does he think he is??m
He doesn't get to decide what medication you do or don't take.

It's a safe medication to take during pregnancy and as long as it is in date and taken at the prescribed dose it's absolutely none of his business.

Glad you've got it sorted now but seriously he needs to wind his neck in.

HG is debilitating and horrendous to go through, you just do whatever you can to get through it.

He hid medication previously prescribed to his pregnant wife, to prevent her from being able to take it. He left her to suffer. Not his medication, nor his body, not his fucking place. How low are your standards? Jesus Christ.

Genuinely shocked by what women in here will accept from partners.

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FFS, it's not controlling behaviour. It's concern for his partner and unborn child.

It definitely is. I'm surprised you don't see it.

Why does everyone jump to men being 'controlling' on here?!

I only mention it if the signs are there.

Terrifying; isn't it?

Because a man using his position of power over an unwell women to withhold her medication and remove her choices is absolutely exercising control.

The idea that withholding the prescribed medication for her condition is "concern" for her is laughable.