First time pregnancy, would love some advice!

[robs1999]

Hi guys,
I’m currently 7 weeks and decided today to progress with my pregnancy! Very exciting stuff as this is something I’ve wanted for a really long time.

The father is someone I went on a date with only once, and I’m afraid to tell him about the pregnancy as he has plans to move to Australia in June. Has anyone got any advice on how to soften the blow? The contraception we used didn’t work and I know he was terrified of getting me pregnant, so I’m just very anxious on the outcome. I’m not bothered about a relationship with this person but I would love to offer him a part in the babies life of course.

Also did anyone else experience extremely painful boobs? I mean like excruciatingly painful. I can barely stand up without them aching and hurting. None of my bras fit, would I benefit from a sports bra or just not wearing one at all? It’s just so painful!!!

Personally, in your position I just wouldn’t bother telling him. He’ll probably ask you to abort and then cut contact when you tell him you’re not doing that. And who wants to listen to that?
Maybe tell him when you’re 30 weeks or something and it’s clear baby is definitely happening. It would save you dealing with the guilt-tripping.

And yes, try a non-wired sports bra or maternity bra.

First of all congrats on your pregnancy! I would tell him though as he has a right to know. As long as your prepared to hear he either don't want anything to do with you or the baby or it could go either way where he will want to be involved, you'll never know until you tell him. Personally I would tell him but don't feel pressured into not wanting the baby if he don't. Good luck hope all goes well x

Ah you’re right! I just don’t need that stress right now! I told my sisters I didn’t wanna tell him but they said that it would be unfair… I’m glad you gave me some clarity on the realities of the situation! Thank you so much :)

Thank you so much I’m so excited it’s like a miracle <3

I do think he should know at some point but like someone else said earlier he may try and pressure me and I really don’t want that to happen right now, it’s so early and I have a lot of things to plan and sort out before I can even deal with an argument with him you know? It worries me thinking about the possible rejection of his child :(

@robs1999 it really is one of the most exciting things you'll experience!

I completely understand, I would be the same whenever you feel and think you're ready then you should have that conversation. You're still really early into the pregnancy so of course you don't need the stress of having to talk to him about it! Either way you sound really excited and happy about this pregnancy so no matter the outcome you sound like you'll be happy either way :) good luck and enjoy pregnancy as it flys by so quick!!

Congratulations!! I'm currently sat cuddling my 3 day old, it's the most amazing thing.

Yes my boobs were so painful so I'd definitely recommend a sort sports bra without underwiring.

It's up to you if you tell the dad or if you'd find it too stressful if he rejected the baby. Good luck!!